He loves me but there someone else, what do i do?

Ghoul · #1 Jul 31, 2007, 10:09 AM

I guess i need opinions on this since i cant make my own decision. ^^"
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 4 months. I'm 16 and he's 18. We were together last year also, but he broke up with me after two days because he wasnt ready to go out with someone else, since he had broken up with his girlfriend recently.
Well the whole year in school he wanted me, but i knew it was a bad idea to give in. But then i decided to give him another chance, i told him that i would give the relationship a try.
He's been a great guy, he loves me, but im afraid i dont love him.
There's been a few negative things in our relationship, he's a bit too pushy when it comes down to stuff and is too clingy. But other than that it's been great for us.
But about two weeks ago, i met another guy. We worked together at the same place, and go to the same school. At first, i only saw him as a friend. But then i noticed that we would end up flirting or whatnot. the first few times this happened i tried to tell myself that what i was doing was wrong, that no matter what i was with someone else. But that didnt happen, the guy likes me back and i like him a lot to. I feel more open with him and i can talk to him, i feel comfortable around him and he makes me happy.
Now my boyfriend makes me happy also, but i never felt comfortable talking to him, i always closed up on him.
I feel like i'm going to have to break-up with him, but i dont want to look like the b!tch. I dont know what i should tell him when i do breakup with him, telling my bf that im leaving him for someone else, wouldnt that make me seem like a slut?
I dont want to hurt him, he's a great guy. But he deserves someone better, and i deserve someone i can talk to and feel comfortable with.
I usually talk to my boyfriend everyday, or every two days, and we see each other. But the past 5days i found excuses not to. I'm busy, working, have to hang out with other friends.
I dont know, maybe this will help a bit by letting him down.
I dont even know if i should break up with him.

SAB123 · Jul 31, 2007, 10:21 AM

You sound confused, I would take time fro yourself and figure out what you want. But if don't have those feelings for your boyfriend I would call it off and do what make you happy. If you do breakup I wouldn't jump into another relationship so fast, I would take time for yourself.

Canada_Sweety · Jul 31, 2007, 10:24 AM

Take a break from this whole thing and think of yourself. You need you time.

Ghoul · Jul 31, 2007, 11:15 AM

if i dont solve this one now, i'll end up not sleeping for the rest of the time. x_o
I dont want or need time, i want to figure out what to do. But i guess only i can do that.. xP

SAB123 · Jul 31, 2007, 11:31 AM

Follow your heart?

Canada_Sweety · Jul 31, 2007, 11:33 AM

Do what makes you happiest then. And do it boldly.

Becca74 · Jul 31, 2007, 11:34 AM

no one has the answer only you do...

Ghoul · Jul 31, 2007, 11:39 AM

-sigh- thanks for all you're opinions, though in the end it's still the same. But it still gives me a persective.
I guess we'll see. o.o



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