Asked Mar 29, 2006, 08:43 PM
Help!I'm hoping you can give me some advice and feedback!
Some months ago, I wrote about a guy who broke up with me (see link below)
Well, he has reappeared in my life, and I'm a little confused. I'll try to keep this simple.
Since the amicable breakup (I was upset, but got on with things), we have been in touch as we are working on a project together. I limited my contact with him to emails, and any phone calls were generally initiated by him. I kept things to a professional minimum, and gradually, we became more chatty over the phone. I had to travel the country for work, and he would call to update me on meetings, and we would exchange bits of news, joke about and I was liking getting to know him as a friend, and gradually got over him.
On the course of this work trip, which lasted a month, I became involved with another colleague. It was something that could go nowhere, as he is in a relationship (I know,not good...),but we clicked, and it was a great experience that brought something out in me.The night we came back to my city, there was a party for all the work colleagues,and my ex who knew I was going to be there, came in for a drink.
I was happy to see him, but shocked when he took me aside and said he had missed me, and wanted us to try again.He said all his reasons for breaking up with me were silly,that he needed someone like me in his life,and he tried to kiss me.I refused the kiss, and said I had had a few drinks,but would like to talk about the whole thing when sober.We had a nice evening,he left and then we exchanged texts over the ensuing weekend. I even asked him how drunk he'd been the night before, and he assured me he'd been sober and in good form.
We spoke on the phone a few days later, and he asked me to attend a meeting as he would be out of the country.I said id like to see him,and not
to talk about the meeting.he agreed,and said he'd call when he got back.he texted to ask about the meeting,I told him how it went, and he asked me to meet him over the weekend.I said that would be great.on friday night,he still hadn't called,so I texted and asked him to the cinema.I got a reply at midnight to say he was sick,and could we meet over the weekend?I said,ok,I'm busy sat afternoon so call me after that.saturday night he rings me at almost 10pm,and I was going out to a party,after giving up on him.he was hoarse,sick and had been working flatout that day.the conversation went well, but I was kind of annoyed he'd left me hanging without letting me know he wasn't going to see me. I pretended not to be though,because I like him and don't want to scare him off with my usual forthrightness!
On sunday night I texted him asking if he wanted to see a show I had free tickets to the following night. Monday 2pm he texts me from his work and says he's filming all week till late and won't be able to go to any shows. Then he asked me was I busy for the week?I replied the next evening,saying the show had been great,and asking how his film was going,and hoped he felt better. That was tuesday evening. I didn't get a reply.
Im really annoyed and upset! I had gotten over this guy and now I'm so confused about the whole thing!has he "changed his mind" and doesn't have the guts to tell me?is he just busy and doesn't realise I need to feel a bit of pursuit on his part?or is this just some weird game?
Sorry this is so ridiculously long, I wanted to include the facts.what do you think? It's also possible he heard about my fling with the co-worker, but surely that is none of his business as it happened before he approached me?it's now 2 weeks since he brought all this up, and we haven't met face to face at all. http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/psychics/love-lost-return-18373.html