i was in a relationship with a married man yes i know it is not right but it happens and now it is over i am keeping my distance but he is still persuing with me ringing me when he is at work and emailing me, i think he wants to start it back again but he will never leave what can i do? he says he wants to be friends and still be there for me.

kctiger

Get some morals and character and leave the loser alone. Don't enable an already weak man to be even weaker. You deserve a man that can actually make you his main priority, not a priority when he can't get laid at home.

BMI

Dear Madam, NOTHING in this situation was done with a good mind. You've no basis to even think about telling his wife anything. I feel real sorry that she has to deal with the two of you.

ecnarrek

she thinks it is over well as i am concerned it is

so why when he said it was over is he now persuing it when he knows he hurt me by saying he was not going to leave? i do believe he loves me but just does not want to be with me

amicon

Judge him by his actions not his words.He treats both you and his wife like rubbish but he tells you he loves you and that makes it alright?I dont think so.Be strong-reject him.

BMI

Beleive whatever you'd like.

Guess he loves you so much he contacts you after choosing his wife over you because he's looking for a.....picnic in the park? or maybe it's something else? I wonder?

I really don't mean to seem harsh but in a way I do. I just can't sympathize with situations involving people who don't like being hurt but care little, if at all, who is really being hurt.

Your pride is hurt, you feelings are hurt, how do you think his wife feels? If you cared you'd not be posting questions about what he really wants and looking for answers that will tell you he does love you.

That is all.

ecnarrek

and what questions do i ask to find out if he really does love me ?

kctiger

Is this a joke? Are you reading any of our advice? He is married! Grow up and leave it alone! Your ignorance to this situation is almost humorous.

ecnarrek

if you understood you would not be saying that obviously you don't!

talaniman

My dear, if you can't see he is training you to be his piece on the side with no strings attached, then their is no advice we can give you, or answers to your questions.

He doesn't love you, he loves what you can give when he wants it, a distraction from his dreary life and a romp in the hay. Thats what his actions say, so stop listening to the words of a lying cheater.

If his words were true, he would be with you, not the wife. If he would cheat on his wife, (the one he chose over you), he will cheat on you, too.

Once you close your legs to him, trust me, he will find someone else.

Try it ( no sex with him) and let me know how much he loves you then.

You could do better if you woke up, and stop being his willing fool.

amicon

Understand what?That he cheated on his wife then left you now wants to be
FRIENDS?
We re all saying the same thing here-try to understand this.