My boyfriend of 6 months is just about perfect. He treats me like a queen and is always doing and saying the sweetest things. Its just the type of person he is. I heard from my best friend that my boyfriend is cheating on me with a girl at her work. However he wont admit he. I have talked to this girl also and at first she admitted it and then said she lied. Im sure he called her to tell her to lie. Anyway I refused to speak to him for a few days otherwise I may have killed him. His crying and begging for days and showing up where ever I go I guess got to me and I took him back. I still bring it up and he still swears nothing happened but he dosent care if he has to hear about it as long as he is with me. I went against my better judgment staying with him and after being cheated on by every boyfriend just about, I swore no man would do it again and stick around. I Love my boyfriend and want things to work out with us but I KNOW he cheated I feel it in my head my heart and my gut and being with him isint sitting well with me. BUT I dont want to leave him. Im so confused.

kctiger

Except for the fact that he cheated on you...

You have a choice to make and it clearly looks as if you are going to let him get away with this. If it was me, I would be out of there. He knows how to manipulate you to making you think he is the dream guy, all the while he is doing God knows what to other girls behind your back. Serious question though:

How do you KNOW he cheated though?

I wish

Simple:

1) He broke your trust.

2) He's trying to repair the trust.

3) If you think his effort and progress is sufficient, then keep him. If not, dump him.

BMI

Wow! Around where I live a cheater is FAR from perfect, not near it.

Can't really sympathize with you at all here. If your so sure he did it (which it does sound pretty suspicious, short of actual proof) than you have your answer. What happened to you swearing you would not condone it anymore?

The post basically says I don't want anyone who cheats on me, my boyfriend cheated on me, I love my boyfriend.

Please!

Justwantfair

Co-dependancy at it's best?

If you have been cheated on in the past, you are dating another cheater, taking him back knowing he cheated (because you can't be without him - please!!) and whining what do I do?

You know what to do?

We aren't going to condone staying in a relationship where he is still lying to you. He hasn't even repented, faced his sin and consequence. You just gave in that easily. He didn't work for it.

He will do it again and then maybe you will look at how you are condoning the behavior.

talaniman

By taking him back, your saying you forgive him, so drop trying to get a confession, and focus on healing and moving forward, or leave him alone. Its really that simple. If you took him back to beat him over the head, thats not love.

Deal with the hurt feelings and not the act that hurt you. Or it will be apparent your decision to take him back was not well thought out, and discussed by you both, with conditions, and boundaries defined, but based on pure emotion, and no facts.

Decision like this, based on your heart, usually don't work for long, as your seeing.

Talk, don't interrogate.

liz28

If he cheated on you then he doesn't respect your relationship, let alone you.

Then he cheated with a girl who works with your best friend? It seems like he has no shame in his game and is making a bigger fool out of you.

I know you might want this relationship to work but it takes two not one. You only been with him for 6 months and your getting a look at his character.

He is cheater and have no shame. He can't even be a man by being honest.

Romefalls19

Maybe I have been absent for too long but there wasn't any proof of him cheating. How do you know he cheated? Besides the hear say stuff. I was always told a saying "Believe half of what you see and nothing of what you hear"

Unless you have proof of it, besides your friend, I don't see why you continue to punish him even AFTER taking him back, which essentially means you forgave him

I wish

From my advice, I didn't mention whether he cheated or not. The point is, there is a breach of trust (thus the break up and as shown when the bf is crying and begging to win her back), it doesn't matter if he cheated or not, the OP didn't believe him and broke up at first. So the bf has to earn her trust back (again doesn't matter if he cheated or not).

If the trust isn't there, the relationship is very weak anyway. A potential or rumored "cheating" experience could really shake up the relationship.

jmjoseph

The problem with him is: he says and does the sweetest things, BUT, he's doing it to someone else at the same time. He's full of $hit in my book. Who would admit (the girl) to something they didn't do, then change they're story? He's a "player" and you're being "played". Leave him and move along to someone who treats you like a lady. Don't be confused. It's quite clear, he doesn't respect you enough to even come clean. Don't waste any more time on this. If you take him back, it's going to give him a "cheat any time I want" card. Good luck on your search for happiness.