Hello I'm a new member and I would like to get some answers about my questions please .

So here is my sad story .

My ex boyfriend and I broke up 20 days ago , I'm 20 and he is 22 years old. We were so great together and so much in love with each other everything was perfect... we were together for 9 mounths , we have faced a few problems at that time but we tried to make it work and we couldn't even think about leaving each other no matter what . He was a very nice guy , peacful , calm and he loved me sooo much even our friends kept saying to me that I'm so lucky to have him in my life because he used to treat like a princess . One day he started to treat me in a different way and he didn't want to see me when I asked him why ,he said it's because he is sick and he needs to get some rest . Few days later we went out but he was diffirent ,we had a walk on the beach ,he was so quiet and he didn't try to hold my hands or anything he was sooo cold ,that made me feel so bad so I couldn't help it , I asked him what's going on and why he doesn't want to touch me ,he said because he is in a bad mood and he just doesn't feel like holding my hand so I was speechless... schoked ,and I couldn't help it so I started crying and guess what? He didn't even ask me why am I crying or hug me like he used to do when I cry! So I asked him if he doesn't love me anymore and if he wants to break up he said that he doesn't know , I was going crazy so I told him that I want to leave and that's what I did. When I came back home I signed in msn he was online then he told me that what happened wasn't good and he doesn't want it to happen again that's why we should have a break , I said no and I begged him not to leave me but he said that he isn't leaving me he just need to take a break so we did it .4 days later he texted me saying that he miss me and wants to see me I was so happy and I went to his house he huged me and told me that he loves me so much , we had a great time in bed and everything was great like it used to be or even better ,I went back home and we kept in touch .few days later I cheeked on his inbox I found out that he is adding a new contacts to his Facebook and they were all girls I was angry ,I told him about that and that I didn't like it he said that I have to live with it I tried to calm down cause I didn't want him to be angry with me and leave me again , anyway he kept treating in that way.. badly... I couldn't handle it... so I discussed that with him he got angry and he told me that he is sick of it ,he can't go on like this and that I'm screwing his life and we really should break up... I was heartbroken again but this time I couldn't begg him and I thought about letting him go , I said okey and I told him that I hate him so much for what he is doing to me and I told him that I know why he called me and wanted to see me after the break... he said what are you talking about , then I told him that he wanted us to see each other so we can have sex then I logged off from msn .he texted me saying that I should forgive him and that we should stay friends cause that was the right decision , and he told me that he is a very bad guy and I deserve better than that and he isn't blaming me for what all the bad things I've said , I didn't reply and I decided to move on . Few days later I missed him so much so I decided to keep in touch with him as a friend we did it but it didn't work cause he was cold and he even ignores me sometimes pretending that he is busy I was so much hurted so one day we had a video chat and he wasn't paying so much attention I was pretending like if I don't care but later and at the same time I texted him telling him that I'm sick of it and that I want him out of my life and that he doesn't deserve me at all , I blocked and deleted him from my contact list so he asked a friend of mine if I blocked him and he told her that I was angry and I said very bad things to him so she told him that he deserved it because of what he did to me. Now we are not in touch but I'm having a very bad days , I think about him all the time and I even lost my apetit because of that , I feel very disapointed and that I have wasted so much time on him... he broke all the promises he gave me of very nice future for us... now I can't trust guys no more , I want to move on but I just can't cause I'm still in love with him and I can't believe that after all what he did to me... I still want him back .
Please tell me what to do , should I forget about him and let it go? If yes then how can I do that?

Girl I am sorry about that.:( But if you love him you should keep him but you should try to make him want you more. And I know how you can do that but I do not know if it will work. You tell him that you are dating another person and find someone. Then if my plan works you will have him crawling to you and asking you everything that you want to do and he might start keeping his promises.;):D:):cool:

I am sorry, but there is nothing you can do right now to change things. Let him go, as much as it hurts and concentrate on you. All the begging and pleading you do won't change things but will only turn him off. As hard as it is, you have to move on. No phone, no texts, no nothing, no contact at all. If he wants you I am sure he knows where to find you. The more your unavailable to him, the more chance he might have to miss you. Sometimes they come back and sometimes it just time to move on. Good luck.

Hello Lina, sorry to hear about how you are feeling. What you should do all depends on what you really want and are willing to put up with.

If you really want him back, are you prepared for more of the same treatment? You've said yourself that he's been treating you badly. Take a step back for a minute and ask yourself what you really want.

Now if you don't want to put up with him anymore and want to let him go, then you need to start No Contact right away... the sooner the better. It looks like you've already taken the first steps by blocking him on MSN - good. This also means avoiding all contact with him - no phone calls, no texting, no video chats, nothing. Its going to be difficult but this is the best way for you to get over this guy and move on with you life.

Good luck, and thanks for sharing your story.

This isn't going to be easy. It is going to be the hardest thing ever, but you really aren't alone here. Im almost 2 weeks into no contact after a horrible break up and I am already realising that even if things aren't good now, they are going to get better - its just the natural order of things and the worst of all, they all take TIME TIME TIME.

Don't rush anything. You need to properly get over him and staying around as his friend will not help. I stayed around my ex girlfriend as her friend because she meant the world to me (she asked for a break). It was the worst decision I have ever made, and to be honest I wasn't thinking straight - I was thinking like a love blind puppy, not the way a man should be.

Think of the person you want to be and be it. This guy playing around with you is not a good thing to have around. His cold-heartedness as almost the flip of a switch is incomprehensible and you most certainly deserve more.

You may want him back, and that is an understandable feeling , everyone goes through that after a bad break up. But if you were to get back together, it most certainly wouldn't be the same and you would be back here in a couple of months. Why prolong the pain for something and someone who isn't on your page.

I'd advise you concentrate on yourself, relieve yourself of this dependence of this guy and you will see that everything is not that bad.

Start no contact, and stick to it - do not reply to his texts, calls or emails and at the same time do not expect any - in fact you should be glad to not hear from him again. He has been playing you around in circles and its not fair..

Ask yourself this - if he really really loved you would he really want a break? If he really really loved you would his initial reaction to a worry of yours be to get angry and ignore you?

I don't understand why girls always want these types of guys back..

Just hang in there Lina (strong name) and be strong just like you know you can

But if you love him you should keep him but you should try to make him want you more. And I know how you can do that but I do not know if it will work. You tell him that you are dating another person and find someone. Then if my plan works you will have him crawling to you and asking you everything that you want to do and he might start keeping his promises.;):D:):cool:[/QUOTE]

Please do not listen to this person,you can't make someone love you and game playing with only make you look immature and foolish. Walk away with you dignity and your head held high with him not being able to say anything bad about you. If he truly wants to give it another go in the future weigh up your options and decide then what's best for you,in the mean time don't create your life around someone else,a partner should be part of your life not all of it!

Irishgirl said it all do not listen to the above poster.

You are just going to make a fool out of yourself and feel worse.

He said he doesn't want you. Take it for what it is and keep yourself busy. Don't think about getting over him, a watched pot never boils.

Fill your life with new activities. Smile when you can, cry when you feel like it and over time you'll need to less. It will get better.

Best of Luck.

Thank you neverme always like to be told I'm right! Also what's for you won't pass you by, that gives me comfort when I f**k things up

Ha, believe I quoted that one this week!

It does put things in perspective.

Well , me and my boyfriend had broken up before a couple of months , and we made up again after exactly a week since we broke up... On Saturday we broke up once again , because he didn't really give me attention , and on Monday I went mad and fought with him.. since then I said I'll move on , but I am crying last days 'cause I miss him... I blocked/deleted him from my MSN also , but I just added him again today...
Actually , girl I got to give you one advice... If he truly loved/loves you , he will show it to you.. and if you want him back , he got to understand that he will try for you this time... otherwise you got to take a breath and move on... It's hard... but if he cares he will try contact you or so... if he doesn't , it means he have already moved on... and you have to as well...