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i am a 25yr old female. Recently went on a (rare) date with a guy. Went really well. Had quite a lot in common with him. He said we could go out again. Since, he just makes working late an excuse. Haven't heard from him in a week. Then at weekend, was happy as met a different guy, who gave me lots of compliments, got on really well. He seemed nice and said we could go out on thu (2nite). Haven't heard from him since sunday. Straightened my hair n all that, incase he called at last minute. Still haven't heard anything. Should I text him or just leave it? They hold my hand, etc, seem keen, then never want to go on a 2nd date. Is there something wrong with me?! I do have a life! :-)
Could you be coming on a little too strong on the first date?
Some people get scared off by this.
play it cool. be fun, have fun, laugh and enjoy yourself. Dont take yourself really serious on the first date.
be a little mysterious and keep them guessing. i bet if you do that they will be intrigued by you and call again.
You just have to relax and play it cool. keep it light and fun early on and no pressure. dont put too much importance in them which im guessing you might as you said it was a 'rare' date.
Play a litle hard to get. it works with guys and girls!
I am not that much older than you and I have been through the same things, and so have my friends... there are some guys that just dont call back. Also, i noticed that you said dating is rare for you... and in that case, this is kinda like practice, just go on a date, have fun, enjoy yourself, and learn about what you want and dont want.... no pressure! Just practice what dating is like... get comfortable with it.... sounds like you are, but you also said it was rare.... I had to get used to it after being in long term relationships... and I did my share practicing being on a date... knowing that it might not work out... and sometimes, like i said, they dont.. and thats okay.... if they want to see you, they will call.... you can give them the benefit of the doubt, but make sure you are not too available, or let them disrespect you!
I agree with all your answers given so far, but on the other hand, could be an idea and some may disagree.
Seeing as it was only your first date and you are intriged to see why he didnt text you, i would text him, nothin out of the ordinary but a simple text msg saying" hi, how are you" and you can even ask to meet again, show initiative and see if he replies, that way you will know whether he is worth hanging out with or not! You will know where you stand.
I think if you got a good vibe, then yeah, text him to say hi.... no pressure, just hi. I had one guy tell me that he was really interested in seeing me again and was asking if i was interested as well, but i didnt hear from him for a few weeks... and i beleived this guy... so i texted him, said hi... and when he said hi back, i asked him to play pool and he was all over that... he was happy that i said hi, he had just been really busy.
But beware... you want a guy who shows you that he is interested! As long as this is not a pattern!
I think if you got a good vibe, then yeah, text him to say hi.... no pressure, just hi. I had one guy tell me that he was really interested in seeing me again and was asking if i was interested as well, but i didnt hear from him for a few weeks... and i beleived this guy... so i texted him, said hi... and when he said hi back, i asked him to play pool and he was all over that... he was happy that i said hi, he had just been really busy.
But beware... you want a guy who shows you that he is interested! As long as this is not a pattern!
There's nothing probably worng with you. You're just single and maybe you don't want to be. Honestly, if you really like the guy, text him. But I'm old fashioned, and I'd say girls that I HAVE REALLY LIKED, I liked to chase!
The chase is part of the fun. Girls I didn't have to chase, I didn't really want too. But that could be just me. I'm a guy who likes the chase. That actually makes me realize that I like the girl.
I remember one girl I dated who I still care about deeply, I called her once a week for 3 months. We would talk for a little bit. I never was disappointed if she said she didn't want to hang out. I always doing something. But she finally did say yes. I actually found out later, she was going through a messy break-up during those 3 months.
I dated her for 4 months. We broke-up because she left for a new city. But the chase is fun. She had fun with the chase, so did I.
And at the risk of sounding off topic here, the thing about what's written on any of our foreheads is.... we wrote it. So its entirely possible to erase it or even rewrite it too! Figures of speech can often be clues to how it really is-- if we tune our ears to listen like that. Just a thought.
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