well i was just wondering from people... if anyones partners said it would't work out and they came back.. after time.....?

LBP

Honestly, my friend, by the time they're ready to come back in all likelihood you won't want them back...

That doesn't mean you can't be friends, though!

Capuchin

Exactly. Why would you want them back? they left you for their own selfish means and desires. They chose someone else over you, or they just plain didnt want you. Why do you want someone who at one point decided that they didnt want you in your life again?

I certainly wouldnt.

teeny94

I think tho it depends on how it happens, mostly if someone leaves you - they didn't like you enough in the first place. They'll probably leave you again if the right circumstances came about.

Jiser

My ex came back twice after a few weeks each time.

I know of my cousin who got back after 4 of NC years with his ex. 10 years later they are still together.

I don't no of any other success stories.

talaniman

The ones I know of broke up again.

Geoffersonairplane

I know that if my ex came back to me, I would find it difficult to forget what she did to me, how she handled everything and what she did after she left me, even though she would have been single at that time. I could forgive her but not really forget and that could result in conflict and perhaps me leaving her...

Maybe not, I have never been in that situation where the ex has come back and I don't think it happens very often. You certainly should let go of false hope because it is soul destroying.

Jiser

Just go with the flow but have some goals in mind : ]

Saw family the other day for the first time in a year or so. Was speaking to them about life in general and about partners. One of my cousins is a consultant in the NHS in London and her husband a consultant in finance and drugs for the NHS. They both said, those who they knew who had the most success were the ones who had goals in mind, things they wanted to achieve. They would work on them perhaps only 3% at a time but eventually they got there even with diversions. Those without goals never really reached their full potential.

They also said they would have traveled and had did have allot of regrets in life. So point being if you want to do something do it and forget the fear < that is not speaking to ex's!!

Once you find yourself and the person you want to be then you can look for someone.

Stunning07

yes i agreee with all... i guess this is just the begining of my heart break so i have the strong feeling of her coming back... as time goes by... ill see what type of person she realli is... which i'm seeing right now... and see what i was blind about her... its hard.. but gets easier everyday w/ NC... sometimes i just feel that it was my fault and i made mistakes... i treated her good.. but i could of treated her better... thats one thing i've learned

Geoffersonairplane

Sure you probably did make mistakes, I did with my ex, but so did she and so did your ex..Its not all your fault so don't blame yourself.

Yes, you will live in hope for a while and yes you will in time, see things you were blinded to before the breakup.

I speak from experience after my 3 year relationship ended 7 months ago which really devastated me but I promise you it will get better in time!!

Relationships are hard work at the best of times but please don't blame yourself, that will debilitate your healing process.

Unless you cheated or were abusive (which you were not) you have nothing to blame yourself for.

Also..Mistakes are made so we can learn from them...

A negative can be turned into a positive.