Hard to find feelings at the moment

jshrckstar · #1 Jul 22, 2007, 04:00 PM

So, I met this girl, and we have been seeing, and talking for about 2 weeks or so. I think I might like her, but I'm not sure? Sometimes I feel attracted to her, and other times I am not. I'm not sure why it is on and off like this but.......anyway. We have already slept together, and I'm not sure why? Like I said, sometimes I am attracted to her, and other times I am not. Obviously, I was attracted to her at that time. It's weird, when I feel attracted to her, it's amost as if I try to find negative things about her, so that I am not attracted. Maybe I'm holding back? Maybe I dont want anything serious? I'm not sure? Any help would be great!

nicespringgirl · Jul 22, 2007, 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by jshrckstar

anyway. We have already slept together, and I'm not sure why? Like I said, sometimes I am attracted to her, and other times I am not. Obviously, I was attracted to her at that time. Any help would be great!

How could ppl sleep together without commitment, I am not talking about marriage, I guess u can do whatever u like( I do against sex before marriage!!!)? Be responsible about what u do. U need to make sure if there is any connection and chemistry before u make a decision on it. Do u feel u miss her everyday?

fightn_tha_goodfight · Jul 22, 2007, 04:16 PM

my brother ur attracted to her when you need something, not just sex but friendship or someone to hangout with, ur just using her, its lust not love, remember this ,lust focusses on self and seeks to take, love focusses on the other and seeks to give, use that in any relationship and u will do well, GOD BLESS

E12191G · Jul 22, 2007, 06:09 PM

first of all. it might not be a good idea to have sex anymore. only because that will only look bad on you. you say you dont know if you like her or not well hows it going to look if you say you dont want to be with her. shes goign to think that you jsut wanted sex and the word will get out. maybe you should wait a little longer. see what you like. you should focuz on if you like her personality and if she can make you laugh. if she makes you happy. because if your only looking for attraction then any relationship you get into is most likely not going to work. thers also no reason to try to find anything negetie about her. the more you do this the more drawn away your going to get from her. maybe you shoule just focus on the good about her and not the bad. if your not even sure you want anythign serious maybe you shoudlnt date anyone untill you know what you actualy want first.

jshrckstar · Jul 22, 2007, 07:22 PM

Haha! I knew you'd find me talaniman!! I agree with you. I know that this has come along quickly since my break up, and it took me by surprise! I may still be healing, and not even realize it because of the excitement of meeting someone new? What do you think?



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