Happily married but attracted to another

My feeling is that this business venture. Being paired up. In my mind could be a risky venture. Are you sure it is all worth it. Especially when you are fancying this person. I think the best thing is not to get too close and one way of doing that is by not going into business with him.

Although this is purely your own choice and decision to make.

You asked your husband if it is okay, and lets say hypothetically something does happen when your in a business venture together. Will you then be able to blame your husband because he said it was okay?

Please think hard and careful about this.

Joe

Love ya back Anna

Sorry, didn't mean to sound the alarm bell. I would still keep a check on the "harmless flirting" though. But you seem to have a good handle on it. Just stay mindful of it and just carry yourself the way you would want your husband to, if he were in the same situation.

Thanks! I will give the business venture a good thought, but will never cheat on my husband. And I dont think my husband's friend will cheat on his wife and close friend at the same time
This business association is really an opportunity for me and I know its a passing attraction, a trifle exciting but not strong!
Thanks allheart! Your mails have really helped me. I said harmless flirting is OK, I didnt mean I'm gonna harmlessly flirt with my hubby's friend. He's rather serious in his approach and has always maintained respectable distance with me, so that should also help. Thanks again! Keep ritin!

Annalisa,

I am glad we could help and I do wish you all the best in this new business venture. I can't help but ask...it seems this mutual friend of you and your husbands has kept a respectable distance...just hypothetically, what would you do, if he did show a little tiny interest..? Just curious. Hope you don't mind me asking.

Dear All Heart,

Dont mind at all, like your question.
If at all he were to show some interest, well...unlikely though, will not respond!
He's investing in my project, we'll not be required to meet regeularly, though there's going to be some interaction!
This kind of a situation can happen with anyone anywhere. isnt it?
Tell me, if you were to get attracted to someone in your workplace and he/she were to show some interest, what will u do? Quit??? NO!
Dont want to regert later in life giving up on this business opportunity. What do you say?

Hi there Anna,

I think you are more than okay. It's probably the first time, since you have been married that someone caused a little ity stir in you. But as I said, you seem to have a very good handle on it.

And no, do not give up on this business oppurtunity. I can sense your excitment with it ..and I say go for it.

What would I do, if I found someone attractive...and then, they me?? ...Let the good times roll LOL.....just kiddn..honest...hee hee...No, I would not quit my job and you are right. Frankly, and I am just being honest, I guess it would depend on how they expressed it. If they were just being nice and complementary, then it would be okay. but if they seemed a little "too" intersted, I think I would be a little annoyed and I would loose respect for them, as I am married and it is well known in my workplace that I am.

But the latter scenario doesn't fit yours, so you don't need to worry about that. I don't think you have anything to worry about, you more than likely just have a great deal of respect for this man and there is nothing wrong with that.

Much much success with this new business venture

Thank You !!!

Keep dreamin girl. If you cherish your marriage and life don't act on it.

Nothing.... if you respect your husband and marriage.

You are already way more interested than "just friends". I am all for being able to be friends with the opposite sex. Having said that.... "it's an exciting attraction" and believe me: it will only be more exciting as time goes by....

Your choice... but ask yourself: how would you feel if your husband felt this way about another woman ?

Good luck !