A gym trainer in my gym likes me!

Nadine8876 · #1 Jun 6, 2007, 12:08 PM

hi, i have a problem and i dont really know who to talk to. there was this guy i liked for months who was a gym trainer at my gym i really liked him, he was sweet funny really cute and he liked me for me which im not really used to and he is soooo much more nicer then douche bags ive dated and he likes me he sent me text messages in the gym there was alot flirting this night but i dont think i should go out w/ him because he is a gym trainer and im a client and if we went out i think his job would be at risk and we would have to do a lot of sneaking around. and hes also 3 yrs older then me which i know is not a lot but its still a gap and my parents would never approve and i dont want to end up getting hurt if they find out and i would have to break up. the last thing i need right now is getting hurt again. so the point of this topic is tht im going to talk to him tomorow but i really want to let him down gently so what should i say? and do you think things will be cool between us after this. he is reaally sweet, funny and cute i sure hope we could be friends

and pleeeaase reply as sooon as possible i have to talk to him tomorow

thanks for you time

Lowtax4eva · Jun 6, 2007, 12:34 PM

How old are you, 13 ish? We're not talking about a doctor dating a patient, his work shouldnt care as long as your not flirting all the time when your at the gym.

Nadine8876 · Jun 6, 2007, 10:16 PM

im 20 and hes 23 i know its only three years but still, and he could probably lose his job over this, its not a good idea how do i let him down gently???? i have to talk to him today.

Nadine8876 · Jun 7, 2007, 11:00 AM

thx guys but i saw him today and he pretty much pretended nothing happened yesterday , he wasnt avoiding me but he wasnt really talking to me either, he was brushing me off. so nothing will happen. but cheers anyways x

shygrneyzs · Jun 7, 2007, 11:37 AM

The local YMCA has a rule for the employees that they do not date with clients, not even anything construed as flirting. Everyone is to be treated equally. Now I know that not all gyms do that but some have very strict rules about that.

You are right that the three years age difference at 20 and 23 is not an issue. Perhaps in another environment, this might work. About him seeming to brush you off - maybe his supervisor talked to him. Who knows?

You were spared telling him that you thought this was not going to work between you two, because of the staff/client relationship.

Nadine8876 · Jun 7, 2007, 12:33 PM

You guys are right, thanks. your advice really helped me and you are right shygrneyzs ive been spared from telling him it wouldnt work out and im im not very good with confrontation. and i think everything should be fine and back to normal

Anyways cheers x you guys have been a great help

Nadine8876 · Jun 15, 2007, 02:24 PM

Hi guys its me again. sorry to bother you with this again and you dont have to reply if you dont want to. two days ago he told me tht som1 is going to tell me not to talk to him but its no big deal, i was oviously concerned and wanted to know what happend and he told me it was a long story and would tell me later, i texted him tht night telling him to give me a call because i wanted to know what was going on, he nvr replied and i asked if i could talk to him yesterday but he was busy and told me to wait.... i waited for 3 hrs on a stupid couch and looked desperate and i feel stupid and he was still busy after 3 hrs and i just wanted five min of his time, he said he would call me and he didnt i texted him tht night and told him i expected a call but i guess he was busy and i wanted to know what was going on and i was getting a bit annoyed. i nvr even got a text fr the guy. i went to the gym today with me and my sis and he had the BIGGGEST attitude problem he was really rude. sooooo, i give up, i nvr want to talk to him again and he turned out to be the biggest ever and i completley misjudged him and im hurt ive been ditched before but not w/ a guy who turned out to be two faced in the end. so this teaches you to not be niave and fall for a guy who is really nice to you ffrom the beggining. but the thing is i knew the guy for five months. anyways to the point. ive been told i should give him a y text message and tell him to go to hell. i want to but is it really worth it? should i be the mature one or show him tht im not all sweet and nice and tht i do have a tough side? i know this was very long but i just needed a secound opinion since i got my advice fr my sis and she is probably just telling me to do tht because shes my sister. thank you for your time. and btw no one confronted me about the guy. i thk the made it up just cause he didnt want to speak to me. i hate him.

Wondergirl · Jun 15, 2007, 02:29 PM

I'm glad you hate him. You should. He's a jerk and a control freak. Don't spend time thinking about him. Look around. There are lots of fish in the sea. Best wishes! (If you want to be miserable, continue to agonize over this guy.)



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