the guy holding my hand and the guy holding my heart arent the same????

Rockabilly1955mama · Jun 2, 2007, 08:19 PM

It seems as though you both have moved on (being that you both have new people in your life). You just need to talk to him, and he needs to talk to you. So you can see if you two are on the same level.

aaron80 · Jun 2, 2007, 09:17 PM

Who broke up with who

Jiser · Jun 3, 2007, 04:52 AM

Personally I think you shouldn't be in a relationship right now. You need to get away and be single for a while and work out what you want.

o0FreeBird0o · Jun 3, 2007, 06:48 AM

it sounds as though you didn't have time to heal from breaking up with your ex. That's not your fault, but you should be on your own for a while so you can sort your head out, get over your ex, move on, and then start dating.
your boyfriend should understand, but you need to talk to him and be honest with him.

Free.

shygrneyzs · Jun 3, 2007, 06:54 AM

You are not doing any great favors for your new boyfriend. You are actually using him, as you are not emotionally involved and cannot give your new relationship 100% of your time, effort, and care.

I agree with Jiser, you should not be in this new relationship. You need to back off, be honest with your new guy and tell him just how fixated you still are about your previous boyfriend. If this guy has any self respect, he will leave and not look back.

People who jump from one relationship right into the next one are not giving themselves enough air to even breathe. Another new relationship is not how to get over the old relationship. Can you say rebound? It seldom works. Because you have not taken time to figure out your own head, what went wrong in the previous relationship, dealing with what went wrong, and correcting or understanding your own behavior. You have not given yourself a chance to recover.

So do that now. Step back and analyze your life. Getting over your ex is your first priority. Which involves not contacting him - don't set yourself up like that. There are many other activities and parts of life that you can get involved in, and none of them involve getting a new boyfriend right away.

talaniman · Jun 3, 2007, 04:29 PM

You've had so many boyfriends, and exes I've lost track. Which ex are we talking about this time?

grammadidi · Jun 3, 2007, 05:22 PM

You shouldn't go out with anyone until you are totally over your ex.

Didi

Jiser · Jun 4, 2007, 03:40 AM

Why did you two break up?

tkdgal · Jul 11, 2007, 05:35 PM

Girl, I'm sorry, but lately you've been having to many heartbreaks and heartaches...you need to get away from boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, and try spending time with your family or something! Too much drama...try to relax!

the guy holding my hand and the guy holding my heart arent the same????

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