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Hello everyone!(if this thread is posted twice I apologize, but I received no confirmation)
I've been on the forumings just listening and reading to the many advices and comments on situations similar to mine. I guess it is inevitably my turn!
My girlfriend of almost 3 years asked me for a break a little over a month ago. In the back of my head I was hoping it would happen, not because I wanted to do anything, but I knew we would never be able to reach that next level if it didn't. She also told me from the beginning that she wanted to see other people. I kinda want her to see other people so that way if we do get back together it won't be a fluke. I actually suggested about 2 weeks ago that we take a complete no contact break, to comply with her first wish..space. The last time we talked we argued for a while, but it seemed like at the end of the conversation we started moving in a direction of resolution. I'm not sure though. I can understand why she would want space, and to see what else is out there. We dated out of high school, and with the pressure of her parents saying a break would help, because they took one.
I guess to sum up everything, she's told me she likes somebody else already. I've been working on improving myself. And I do feel like God is working with me everyday. We both also expressed that we feel like we will be together in the end in a great relationship free from all doubts and "what ifs". I guess I'm wondering if I'm handling this correctly. If you need more information please ask, and I also know there's no real answer to this kind of thing...I just really need to talk about it so I don't have to hold this in all the time. Thank you guys for everything, and I really look forward to dialouging!
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Its just an excuse for her to go out and be free with other people. Let God work within your life everyday and maybe just maybe Gods plan is not for this lady to be in your life. It does not sound like it in my opinion. Also if she is so easily influenced by other guys and family members. It is better that you guys do that now of course. Your line sums up why I said what I said. She told me she likes somebody else already. RED FLAG.
Like you, when my girlfriend suggested we take a break I suggested we go all the way with it, as in - no contact at all..In hope that we would miss eachother and she would realise she loves me or whatever..well she never came back.
Your girlfriend tells you that she likes someone already..what you need to do now is get over her.Stop contact with her and focus on yourself..You can't wait around for her in belief that Gods plan is to return her to you some day after she realises its you she wants.
We never know what will come next, but for sure you know your broken up. As you accept that fact, and work on rebuilding your life without her in it, you will be a better, healthier and wiser person. Its your responsibility to love yourself, and pursue your own happiness, and let her do the same. The rest will play out later. We never know who we will share our happiness with, but must be ready when they do appear in our lives.
Awesome awesome! I've been reading the boards, and it seems like very consistent advice. I haven't talked to her in weeks, but I guess if she calls me or something I may or may not answer depending on what's going on..lol. This is so weird man. I never realized how common this issue is, but I definitely see what you guys are saying. And just to ask, what exactly is NC. Because I've seen different variations and I want to know exactly what everyone describes as no contact.
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