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Asked Jan 30, 2006, 09:58 AM
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19 Answers So there is this guy at work who I get on with really well. We are always telling each other jokes and having a laugh. Howver, he has recently startd being overly nice. Everyday I come into work, he will shout hello and then follow with "you look very nice today" - it's really nice and made me feel really good about myself, however I did not think anything of it, just thought he was being friendly, that and it's always nice to receive compliments. The other day however, he said to me, "you look nice today, you always look nice, no matter what you wear" - now again a nice compliment, but my response was "What do you want" - he said "I am just being honest" Now he can be a bit of a player and I know he is not 100% faithful to his girlfriend. I told pete about this and he said "if he says it again, slap him" The part I did not tell him, was that this guy actually said to me "we will have our time" - I told this guy that we wouldn't, I was happy with Pete and he should be concentrating on his girlfriend. I did not tell Pete because I did not want him worrying or thinking the worst. Plus I have dealt with the situation. The only thing is I know this guy is going to keep on trying (he is the perservering type) I have not seen him since then and I am going to do my best to avoid him, I obviously will be polite and say hi in passing (I am not a rude person). Do you think I have done the right thing, or shall I tell Pete? I mean there is absolutly nothing to worry about and I have not lied to Pete - I have made pete aware of what this guy has been saying, so he gets the gist - I just wonder if I have done and am doing enough, or should I be doing something else?! |
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| Defintely coming on to you. Women fall for this stuff all the time. Sounds like a complete player. Giving you the BS. The love and leave guy - most defintely. The guy would hurt you if you didn't know any better. This guy has no honest intentions it seems. | ||||
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| You may want to remind him what "harassment in the workplace" is if he continually makes you uncomfortable with his advances. I don't think you need to go into any more detail with Pete - unless the situation escalates. | ||||
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| He is a player. I think you should report it to you boss first and ask him what should you do. If your boss is a professional he will know how to handle it. Your boss may just tell this guy to knock it off. Follow your bosses lead may be a good start to solve the problem. | ||||
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| DJ H under UK law all companys have to provide a safe work place free of this kind of thing, or your company would be seen to be breaking the LAW. You need to stay away from the guy as much as you can, then you must also speak to senior management as this is viewed as harassment. Most company H.R's would take it down that path if you report it. Hope it all turns out good for you. | ||||
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| Wow... I don't know about reporting him to your boss. It still seems a little innocent to me. Sure, he may be trying to throw some moves on you... But, if you are an attractive girl, you have to expect that every so often. Just stand up for yourself and let him know. Take his power away and use it against him. The more you let this get to you, the more power you are giving up to him. You are woman, let him hear you roar lol ....This guy sounds JUST like my cousin lol | ||||
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| This guy is way out of bounds. Ground him. It's penalty time. | ||||
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| I don't think she sees it yet as being out of bounds. A little innocent flirting - but this guy seems to have greater intentions, and they don't seem honest and good. | ||||
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| Hey there, I don't see a need to take it to HR. All you need to do is tell him to lay off the next time he starts his cheesy lines. Don't give in to the humour of it either, just say "look try your lines somewhere else, mate." and leave it at that. Sooner or later he'll move on to someone else if you don't react to him too much (that includes reacting negatively, any reaction will keep him hanging). | ||||
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| Yeah - these guys don't take direct rejection too well. You gave him some attention and he took it wrong it seems. | ||||
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