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Whats up People, i have a girl and we have been together for about 10months now and i still haven't had sex with her yet!!! She says she wants to wait until she gets married. But i am thinking about ending the relationship because it is tuff on me. My friends say i need to keep her and just cheat on her on the side. I do not want to do that to her because she is a sweet girl and i do love her but i'm getting to the point where i don't care anymore. When i am in her apartment and we kiss and hug i sometimes don't want to be there because i know we are not going any further, becuase its like a waste of time. Get my D___ hard and go home frustrated, i'm probably going to just stop calling and seeing her for at least 1 week straight, just to calm myself down, but i know that she will probably get upset about that!!! what should i do.... Any advice out there?
This is a real tough situation, and one that's not going to have an instant 'fix' to it.
You really need to talk to your girlfriend and tell her how you're feeling.
That said, don't go wading in with any emotional blackmail, the last thing you want to do is make your girlfriend feel pressured into sex, as this is likely to have the opposite effect.
If you really do love her, respect her and wait, she may change her mind in time.
First you don't say how old you are. That has a bearing here.
But frankly, I think she's better off without you. If you truly love her you would respect her wishes.
That being said, I would try a frank discussion with her. I would explain that there are things you can do together that would relieve your needs without her losing her virginity. If she loves you, she will understand and want to help.
for a girl its a big thing 'giving away her virginity' however for a guy its well there you go who's next?
you need to talk to her and potentially mention stuff about playing with each other becuase that way she will still be a virgin and you both have pleasure and not go home frustrated.
Alternatively there maybe an underlying fact that you dont know about and that is why she wont have sex with you. Talk to her!!!!
Talk to her seriously, but don't try to deliberately make her change her mind about what she wants. You have no choice but respect her decision, but she also needs to know that you're not 'happy'.
It would be way to immature to leaver just because she doesn't want to have sex.
Actually she has told you what she wants and expects and she is showing good morals,
And honestly if you are thinking about leaving a wonderful girl just because you can't have sex, you need to leave her since she deserves awhole lot better than you. And anyone who would considered cheating on a good girl like this, does not deserve her anyway. So basicly it sounds like she needs a better person than you, So I would consider rethinking what is important in life, or move on to trashy girls that sleep with anyone.
You are basicly saying sex is more important than a long term relationship.
Of course this does sound like a 14 or 16 year old talking who does not understand long term seroioius relationships.
Honestly she has told you how she feels and its up to you to deal with it. If all you want is sex, there are plenty out there to accomadate you, but if you have feelings then show the proper respect.
Wow. This is kind of interesting post. We have tons of guys who post her would give anything to be with a good, honest, loyal woman. You have one but you want to cheat on her.
Your the reason she's a virgin. It's guys like you she wants to protect herself from so you should probably do the right thing and let her know that her beliefs are not compatible with your beliefs and end the relationship so that you can both find people that match your beliefs.
I agree with Chuff.
I can't believe you want to cheat on her.
I would have said if you care about her enough to want to have sex with her then talk to her about it and open up, but you are so one track minded you want to cheat on her?
I'd say break up with her. You're doing her a favour.
why dont cha talk to her?? tell her its driving you crazy! but another reason i want to wait......but didnt. is b cuz i thought my Bf would get tired of me and leave after we already did EVERYTHING. thats wats up with alot of girls their not afraid to have sex...just afraid to loose you
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