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I have been dating this girl for the past 13 months. She is 12 years younger than me and is 19. We have spent almost everyday together for the past year. A week ago she acts like she wants nothing to do with me. Wants to hang out with her friends all the time, doesn't want a hug or kiss from me doesn't show any affection towards me. Any ideas on what I can do. I would do anything for this girl and am willing to do whatever to hopefully not lose her. Any ideas? Should I just let her be and let this play out or what?
Hi,
She is 19, and you are 31 yrs old? I am 64, married now for 29 yrs. My wife is 6 yrs younger than I.
Sounds like your 19 yrs old girlfriend isn't ready for a long-term relationship commitment; she still has some "growing up" and learning about life. At 31, you are very much ahead of her in the "learning about life" department, and have had many, many more experiences that her. She hasn't had all these experiences yet, and can't, tied down to just one person.
I would wait and see what happens. She is telling you that she wants some time; time to be with others, time to "find herself".
Meantime, it's going to be hard on you. I would start talking with others, meeting new people. Let her have some time by herself. Eventually, you will both know what will happen, if anything.
I do wish you the best, and good luck.
The age gap i believe has alot to do wi it. Mainly coz of the fact that she is 19. If you were 40 and she was 28 than that would be a bit different but a 19 yr old has still alot to learn, still alot of things and experiences to do. Althou saying that i was 19 when i meet my husband. Im now 27 and he is 30. So we grew up together and experienced lifes ups and downs together, and we both still have alot to experience together.
So saying that at 19 i was prepared to live my life with my man and no one else.
What did u used to do as a couple?
Did u go out together and do things you both enjoy?
it's not just the age gap, but, as KRS said, it the age each of you reached: you're at diff. life stages what interests you, might bore her, what she likes might seem, maybe amusing at the beginning, but this won't last.
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We have done a ton of things toghether. Some things she enjoys, and things I enjoy. I do agree it's probably the age issue. I was there for her when she was going through some rough times and fell in love with her. I will always be there for her but this is killing my insides. Frustrated just frustrated!
Im sure it must be hard for u, but try keep ur chin up. There is so much love u can give when that person dont want the love they are given.
Try talk to her, explain that u are hurt, and see how she responds to it.
We have done a ton of things toghether. Some things she enjoys, and things I enjoy. I do agree it's probably the age issue. I was there for her when she was going through some rough times and fell in love with her. I will always be there for her but this is killing my insides. Frustrated just frustrated!
You said you were there for her when she was goin through times?
Is she all ok now?
At the risk of sounding overly simplistic, have you asked her about it? Such as, "Lately I have noticed you made a change in your availability for spending time with me . . . so that i better understand, can you tell me what is making this change occur and why?"
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