Ok guys


Hello by the way, so you guys and gals let me know what you think of this.

I have a good job, really good money and everything. but i travel a lot a real lot and im always away, now of course my girl gets a bit upset that im not there with her. she wanted me to leave and be with her by may, i told her that right now i can not leave my job as i have a house and many things to keep up, im not going to go off to some strange place and not know where im going or what im doing just to be with you, because if i do that. then it will just become a nightmare..


She is getting really cold and y now, so i just said look i do want to make a life with you but as of right now i can not leave my work, its not fair in me asking you to wait for me i know this, but i do want this to work.. she then tells me ohh you can leave you just dont want to lalala..


So i said well ok i cant seem to talk to you right now youv gone all supersonic on me. i then told her you wanna end it will that make you happy? coz you seem to be really upset with me and in this Long distance relationship.

So im of 2 minds 1 brake up with her

or the other one.. well im not sure what the other one is coz i dont think she can take this way much longer.

anyway another perspective would be great


Thanks in advance

Faith

friend4u178

I agree with what the others have said but I have to add

If she is giving this to you as an "ultimatum" , then in my opinion she doesn't really value the relationship.

ForeverZero

It's been my experience that when a woman issues her demand and they're not met, only to respond with "i'll deal with it but i don't know for how long", that can usually be translated to "i'll deal with it until i find someone else". As far as i'm concerned, you're setting yourself up to be cheated on, not that i fault you for picking your career.

Jesushelper76

Long distance relationships are so so hard. One of the two people need to eventually make the move. If there is any hope of a relationship lasting, but you always travelling on your work does not help matters. You want to build a relationship you both need to spend quality time with each other.

At the same time in my own personal opinion, you have a house, and very good job. What kind of job does she have? Would it be easier for her to make a move, if she feels so strongly about it? Each individual and couple situation is different but I am sure you get the idea.

Decisions have to be made.

ForeverZero

He brings up a good point. What does she have? Is she only staying with you now because you provide for her, and she needs you until she finds somebody else?

nickshehe

I've been somewhat a realist/pessimist since coming on this site.
You've been given great advice, but my honest opinion is that from what I've seen , 90% of women come and go (and men)..relationships just aren't forever anymore.
You seem keen on your job, she doesn't seem to keen to compromise..Which doesn't seem very "loving".
If you quit your job for her -chances are that some day in the future you're going to kick your own behind for making that choice...Then again you might keep the job and regret losing her..Depends what kind of person you are really, and if you honestly can't work out some sort of arrangement between the two of you that will make both her and you happy then I suggest you cut your losses and quit while you're ahead..because if you don't settle this now then it will be a long and painful route to the future.
my two cents.

TrueFaith

Couldnt agree more Tala and all of you guys have awesome advice thank you


I will say this i have just spoken with her and i have told her about my plans i want to work towards something in the futuer with her. and i said i hope she can be with me untill that dream becomes a reality but untill then ill make.. and i hope she will make every effort to keep our relationship alive, and just be a bit more understanding. because i can understand that she wants a life, and kids.. and so do i but its just im not at that stage yet and well i hope we can work this out

friend4u178

Good luck faith..............I hope it all works out for you.