Ok here's my story, I haven't heard from my girlfriend in over a week, I've text and left messages in fb and msn no word, I called her up and her cousin answer and hang up on on me. Later on I found out she was sick, I got really worried as I really don't know what is wrong with her and her family members won't tell me. So I got no choice but wait after two weeks no reply I got fed up and jump to a conclusion she was avoiding so I email her and told her I'll say away from her and then she reply by how she was waiting for me to get online and that how sorry she was but she was sick and tired of me jumping to conclusion and told me she gave up and do not contact her again. I was online never saw her online once, I was gutted to see those words of do not contact her again, I got desperate and try to add her back in fb and get her to talk to me, I pretty much got a point where I turned into a stalking her. A week later I tried contacting her again but it was futile I guess I realize it. So I stop contacting her block her fb page, and sent her a note to remove my friends request in fb as I can't remove it and I was getting an error message all the time. Its been hard I'm trying everything to forget her and stop thinking about her but I couldn't somehow thing will remind me of her. I'm so heart broken she was the first girlfriend I ever had and I really did fell in love with her. I guess I just want to know do I keep hoping she will come around or that she really doesn't want anything to do with me anymore? Should I just lick my wounds and move on. Btw this is a same sex relationship, I'm still learning and she was my first love, my heart just won't give up on our love and all my friends is telling it will better in time but I really don't know if I should follow my heart or my mind. I know its over I just can't get it through to my heart to accept it, so please help me I just want to be myself again and I've been going out with friends and keeping myself busy, am I missing something else?

Short answer... move on! Seems like she can't even give you the time of day much less an explanation. It sucks but, nothing you can do.
If she ever does come around I don't see why you would ever want to talk to her again. You have no choice... move on and find someone better!

I'm trying my best o move on but I keep falling into contacting her. I know she wants nothing to do with me but I really don't know why after a few days of no contact I get this desperate urge to have her. I don't want to be a stalker but I feel I am, how can I stop thinking about her? I know she won't ever come back to me, I need to look ahead and forget her but everything I seem to try won't last for a more than 2 days. Anyone have ideas please give it to me.

She have nothing to do with you why are you getting carried away in emotion a short and sweet ans for this is just MOVE ON... stop contacting her leave her alone when she is not bothered about you and your feeling why are you going behind her its over and accept that and leave this relationship with a dignity I know you might be thinking its easy to say and all but dear I am going through same thing and it hurts like hell but except moving on and accepting that person is gone there is no option left so get up there delete her phone no. her pictures,her gifts(if you have some) and when ever the thought of calling or msging comes in your mind get up from that place go meet a friend or talk to your family go out for a walk and let the phone be at home divert your mind dear that's the best medicine for this condition. Stop hurting yourself for some who don`t care for you and your feelings... get you self busy in your work or studies don`t let your mind be free for a min also. Buy doing this you are just going to hurt yourself more so don`t do that to yourself and by doing all she is not getting affected so MOVE ON get over her and find some one better for yourself all this is hard to do but give yourself time. TIME HEALS EVERYTHING... hope my advice helps you tc and good luck

I was a fool, and she played me one, she is now getting me for harassment. I admit I got obsess with her I really truly fell in love with her but she just used me. Her fb was about me and she made me look like the bad guy but in doing that I finally woken up from my nightmare and saw what type of person she really is. I've deleted her, blocked her so I won't see her in fb or msn or anywhere else. She wasn't worth the time and effort I put in what was our relationship. Now I know why she got over me so quickly a was a pawn in her games and when she got bored with me she throw it way and doesn't look back. I know now I'm over her and I don't want to hear or see her ever again. I'm not the person she said I was, if she really did know me she knows that and that she wouldn't said those things if she did loved me. I was an idiot and I'm disgusted how I acted but I changed the past I just need to work on the future. Thank you to all of your advice.

My ex girlfriend and I broke up more than a month ago and I got ot admit its hard to just pick up the pieces and move on but I'm trying anyway about a couple of weeks ago I made a mistake of calling her, I thought if she could hear me out we can then work on our problems and work getting your relationship back on track. I know now its was wishful thinking and I admit I got desperate she wouldn't asnwer my emails it was like the last resort.
But anyway she turned it around and posted on her Facebook I was harassing her and that she called her lawyer to see if I can be charge. We lived in the opposite of the world and I didn't think my emails were harassing her I was just telling her how much I love her and that what we have was special, but I guess it was only me who saw it that way. Every since that day I totally stop contacting her. I figure she wants me out of her life so that's what I'm going to do, I deleted her from the games we played even the once we never played now I reinstalled and deleted myself from her. Her post made me opened my eyes that its totally over and that she doesn't have anymore feelings for me, it was harsh reality sinking in to me. Anyway its been over a week now and I haven't contacted her at all, and then I found out from mutual friends her family is saying she should go get a restraining order for me. I don't know what else to do I cut all ties I can with her, haven't been asking friends about her and I certainly stop calling but its like she is not done rubbing my name through the mud. I left her alone like she wanted why is she still carrying on and making me be the person I am not. I haven't done anything to clear my name at all and believe me I want to but I thought I'll make it worst for myself if I reacted, its hurting me a lot this was the person I trusted and claim to say she knows me but why is she so mad at me even know that I leave her alone.
One of my friend think she is asking drama and making herself the victim and the people that knows me didn't believe what she is saying about me but I told them to let it go. I'm trying to ignore/dismiss what she is saying about me but I really do not know what else I can do.
Just for the record I email her once or twice a day twice only in 2 occasion I found a you tube song that I thought she mite like as it reminded me of her, and I only called her 3 times, once I hung up as a male understand second I thought maybe she change her number and lastly because I just wanted to hear her voice and explain myself but it didn't happen all calls was under 30seconds except the second as her dad went to hand the phone to her. If anyone can advise me I really appreciate it.

... And you don't call this harassment??

You need to accept the break up and STOP calling her. She doesn't want to hear your voice, nor your explanations. You can't do anything to fix the relationship and for the moment, there's no way to "clear your name" since it's been a week only.

You need to ignore what she says about you. Maybe she just wants attention, asking for a restraining order for someone who's in the other side of the world is a bit too much. Your friends will be your friends anyway. The only thing you can do is to move on and CUT ALL TIES with her, delete her number, block her Facebook, stop questionning your common friends, keep her out of your life - and consider this a lesson learned. Good luck.

Just keep staying away from her. I was/am in the position your ex is in right now. My ex harassed me for 7 months after I broke up with him and I had to get the police involved and change my phone number to get him to stop calling me. The truth is, it's a scary and upsetting feeling when an ex shows signs of obsession by continuing to contact the other when it is clear they want to be left alone. She is reacting to this unsettling feeling. Just ignore her, stay away, and try to move on, this will be best for both of you. Harassment doesn't have to be continuous and its not a numbers game, if you contact her and try to talk to her when she made it clear she did not wish to, that is harassment. 3 phone calls is 3 calls too many. Keep your distance and move on.

Good luck.

I guess my problem is now I'm being label as a stalker, she past the whole harassing bit to letting everyone we know I'm stalking her this is why I gone to extent to removing myself from her at all, all the games we play together I reinstalled some so I won't have a reminder of her and vice versa. I haven't lost any friend of our friends in fact all of them are there supporting me. I know I did things I shouldn't have and I am sorry for that as much as I want to tell her that I haven't its just going to bring in more animosity and I all I really want is for us to get on with our lives. I don't ask friends to tell me things about her I don't need as I'm no longer part of her life therefore I got no reason too, but I just have it in my head that where ever she is she is happy and that she's with someone who treats her well. I have accepted we are over and no matter how much I still love her, you can't have a relationship base on a one sided love. I'm not dense some of the actions I did was in act of desperation but with no intention of hurting her in anyway but of course it wasn't perceive as one. I am continuing to have no contact with her as I said she want me out of her life so I'm giving her what she wanted that's the least I can do but she I wish she would stop saying things about me, she doing the same things she did when we broke up the first time except this time I'm walking away and she's decided to not communicate to me at all.

You recover from the emotional fallout, and her drama by doing what your doing, and that's leaving her alone until she shuts the heck up! As long as you do that, doesn't matter what she says about you.

It all will die down, if you do nothing. She will then have to let it go herself, or look mighty foolish to all she comes in contact with. Sorry it turned out this way but chalk it up to a helluva learning experience.

Don't respond to her or her drama. I get the impression that she is playing it up because she likes the attention she is getting. If she continues her game and everyone notices that you haven't been around or asks why she hasn't blocked you, her tower of blocks is going to come tumbling down. I doubt it will take very long and it will all blow over.

Meanwhile, live your own life and take care of yourself. Keep No Contact (that's what you are doing by cutting all ties). Staying busy and trying new things will give you less time to think about her and the past. Meet new people and have fun remembering how to start up a conversation with females who you find attractive. I don't recommend jumping back into dating, but talking and making friends can help you move forward.

Good luck.

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Tell anyone who has contact with her that you don't want to hear anything about her. Nothing. Nadda. Zip. Zilch. Zero.

Its none of your business anymore so why your friends of friends of friends keep telling you is beyond me. Doesn't this girl deserve any privacy?

Even if she is talking c**p about you, ignore it and get on with your life. Stop using this as a reason to stay in the whole relationship drama. That's just stopping you from moving on.

Is that what you want?

I feel bad for you and I've been in your shoes before so listen carefully Ill give you a solution that works every time and if you do it the way I tell you too she will start fallowing you everywhere you go. Wake up stand go straith to the washroom. When you get there don't do anything but look in the mirror for awhile make sure there's not noise or anything. As you can see you got a little work to do so lets start to put your head up ( No women or men deserve to be depressed or be treated like that and get paranoid. Fell good in your own skin that's the first thing you need to think after that everything start slowly coming alone. 1-Dont pay her attention when you see her just say hi but no words only head movement and just a little smile but not much just enough to make her think something cause that smile will hunt her over and over 2- talk to other girls in front of her be friendly with them and again no attention not even looking at her. By now the disease is getting to her but not badly yet and it's called jaleousy. 3- She wondering aren't you looking at her so now she thinking finally he left me alone but she's human she eventually thinking the thought of why will be coming up seeing you talking to other girls and not even looking at her. The more your busy talking to a girl or could be girls. When I say talking is anything could be about what you ate at dinner just make it flirty but not too much flirty to make her think things. Then the time will come for you to leave She is really wondering why now so she'll try to get your attention if your going to look (DONT) NOT EVEN ONE LOOK. The attention you gived away to the other girl or girls belonged to her Just walk make sure you say bye to whoever was around you but don't even look at her and that means if she around your friends well they can wait the next day to say sorry but I did not wanted to come close to her the girls hugs are highly workable too in front of her.

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Read the stickies, and get your life together, and know she didn't use you, you just refused to accept she wanted no more to do with a relationship, and got carried away by your own emotions, instead of bowing out gracefully, and keeping your dignity and self respect.

Enough of that kind of behavior, end this chapter of your life, so you can start a better one, and don't fall for any cockamamie schemes or tricks, or traps that make you look foolish trying to get her back.

Good luck!

Ok its been a few month's I have no contact with her what so ever, I've tried everything I can think of not to think about her, but I still can't forget. I know its over and that she will never coming back, I really just want to stop thinking about her. I'm going out a lot more, with friends and family and interacting more with other people so I can move on frm this but I don't understand why am I still thinking of her. There is nothing connecting me and her now. Everyday I keep telling myself she's with someone else but that doesn't stop me from thinking of her. I don't know what I'm doing wrong, I've read articles of what I should do but its not helping me. As soon as I think of her I'm thinking of something else to distract me but this has been going for months and I thought it should be getting better but it's not. So if there any advice anyone can give me to forget her I would really appreciate it and yes I've given up trying to win her back as there is no point fighting for someone who doesn't want to be with you. I just want to move on from this relationship. So please help me.

Keep doing what you are doing... be patient, it takes time. There really is no fast and easy way to just move on. You may want to try a few sessions of councilling.

What worked for me once was simply making goals and focusing on them... such as planning a trip/vacation, learning a new skill. There are other things in life that will give us pleasure beyond relationships... these activities/passions define who we are... find that and go with it!

If you really want to forget about her then don't be afraid... there are boundless opportunities for happines and even meeting someone infinately better than your ex if you choose to ask some tough questions of yourself, accept the realities of who you are, why you are like that, if you are happy with yourself and if you should or shouldn't change some things. Time will take care of the rest.