Hey everyone,

I have this situation. I just broke up with my girfriend of almost 3 years (this september) and she thinks that I am playing mind games that everytime I am around her I get text messages or a phone call in the middle of the night as we still hang out with each other. She thinks that I am doing this to cause "suspicion" which is totally crazy because when we were together these things happened although not as much.

So now monday was the last day i spoke with her as I am trying to start no contact. So she finally called this morning and said I was playing games by not contacting her because she felt that I thought it was to get her to call me. I actually was trying to get past her.

We had been living together and after my father died i blew almost $170,000 (an inheritance) in this relationship and when the money runs dry we started having all kind of problems. She would show put her bills on the fridge sometime for me to see, and always would say i was selfish. What really put the icing on the cake was this one phone number kept calling in the middle of the night and she wouild lie and say its the wrong number. Howvever after I checked the phone while she was in the shower, it was a boy's number saved under a girls name, as that person had sent him a text SAYING her name.

So finally after 4 weeks of pressing this issue, she wouldnt tell me who it was, where she met this person, how they met, she would just say "I dont have to tell you that. You dont know all my friends" but i think that was bull. What caused the suspicion is that she had a line on my phone and i could see all the numbers dialed on the phone bill. This ONE number was brand new and the calls were lik 50mins long during the day. Had no consideration for the phone bill and now its at $1,500. Her excuse for not helping with the bill was that I never showed her the bill. I payed all the rent. as she said she was struggling which was $965 a month. So after all tyhe questioning about this number she decides to hop up, AND GET HER OWN PLACE without telling me until AFTER she signed the lease on the same day. She said I was being emotionally abusive by not trusting her which is a QUACK. Its funny now she can afford $650 a month on her own, but coulnt afford $300 a month which was all i was having her pay. She is now struggling (go figure) and is mad at me cuz i wont help out. But we still have sex and hold hands etc until last week when my phone started ringing a lot and i was texting to my friends which caused her to think i was playing mind games. THIS is why i stopped talking to her as of Monday, ALTHOUGH WE HAVE BEEN BROKEN UP SINCE JUNE 5, 2007. It really didnt seem like it. I am REALLY trying to get over this. I keep tosing and turning thinking about if she is having sex with someone at the moment or what she is doing and it is KILLING ME. I want to contact her and i get a STRONG URGE even today but I want her to realize the mistake she made.

If you guys could help with advice, please assist....................thanks guys and girls

J_9

CHANGE THE HOME PHONE NUMBER!!!

I thought you were going to do that.

Did you change bank accounts yet? Have you put a flag out on your SSN?

Okie, with that said. I am unsubscribing to this post. This is #190, 19 PAGES and you still haven't a clue.

She's gonna bring you down further than she has already. We have all tried, yet you don't seem to want to take much of the advice. It's obvious that we are wasting our time here.

SAB123

I believe deep down he doesn't want to let go. 4.5 months into mine I didn't even with the advice here but their comes a point where you have to let go even if it hurts. She not for you dude she's a user and in time you will see this. Start following the advice here it helps.

DougE

thanks SAB123 and J-9 and all others for your help during this difficult time

DougE

OK gUYS, I PROMISE THIS IS MY LAST POST.


I checked the voicemail on my house phone, and I left a lot of cds over her apt, so she wanted to know if i wanted to come get them, or have her mail them to me. Then she called back like 10 mins ago leaving another message saying because I ignored her yesterday, she just put them in the mail and hope all is well. take care



Now maybe thats what it was all about, nothing more, nothing less....ya think?

DougE

yous guys silence answers the question LOL

kp2171

yeah, im unsubscribing from the thread.

we all need a shoulder sometimes... and this site is a little addictive, but at this point its all the same stuff over and over. you either believe it or not.

time to maybe stand on your own a little. it sucks. it hurts. its just the way it is until it isnt.

good luck, im out.

SAB123

Doug, when I came here 5 1/2 months ago I was like you kept talking about what she did why she did this. After a while no one would answer my questions on certain issues of my ex fiance. You know why, because they new it was a dead issue.

NeedKarma

She's really not the problem - you need to fix yourself.

talaniman

Speculating on someone elses thoughts, and motivations is waste of time. Its better to examine your own thoughts and motivations, as you can at least learn about yourself.

DougE

yeah very true, thanks guys for everything......last night was interesting.....had sex with an ex I was with before this one......WOW WAS IT GREAT! LOL