My girlfriend still loves me but lost feelings for me. What does she mean?

odinn7 · Aug 28, 2011, 09:06 AM

Best advice I can give you...dump her. I know it sounds hard to do but with what you just said here, you are in for an emotional roller coaster if you stay with her. Once someone tells you they have lost feelings for you and need time for themselves, it's pretty much over. You're just going to keep going through all kinds of problems with her as she will probably string you along and it's going to make things harder on you.

Her telling you this means that A) she has found someone else and wants to try them out B) she's tired of you but can't tell you C) both A and B...You're better off not even dealing with this. Save yourself the pain and break it off now.

agh1990 · Aug 28, 2011, 01:17 PM

From the sounds of it, I think she may have been using the wrong word when she said she still loves you, and perhaps she meant it in the sense of she still cares for you. Perhaps she has lost the feelings of wanting to be with you, but is scared to break if off fully because at the end of the day, she does still care for your feelings and doesn't want to see you get hurt.

The best thing to do is to sit back because, at the end of the day, you can't force someone to be with you, and it's just as unfair for her to be in a relationship she doesn't want to be in as this situation is for you.

I think you need to leave her for a few days, and then after that period of time ask to speak to her to see where she is and what her feelings are. And if it's that she doesn't want to be with you, I think you need to accept that and not make her feel even more guilty for making the decision.

Good luck, and I hope everything works out for you.

talaniman · Aug 28, 2011, 02:31 PM

I don't know how old you both are, but when feelings change for one partner, and they ask for space, or a break, give it to them, and leave them alone, and go back to doing your thing, without them. In this way you won't degrade yourself with whining and begging, and can find better options, and opportunities to be happy.

If her feelings change back, you will hopefully at least, be able to decide if its worth all this dram, and confusion. So don't worry about her feelings, just deal with your own, and if her mind changes, and she misses you, she will let you know, then you can decide if its what you want, or if this is just going to happen again.

Some people change their minds many times, and act on feelings they know nothing about, or are not sure what they feel.

Leave her alone to find out.

Homegirl 50 · Aug 28, 2011, 05:17 PM

6 months is not a long time. It is just enough time to begin to know a person. Maybe she likes you but not as much as she used to. Leave her alone. Don't "give space", break it off and move on. If there is something to rekindle it will happen, if not, you have not continued on a roller coaster.

timmy8493 · Aug 28, 2011, 08:02 PM

Her friends tell her that I'm the right boy fore

talaniman · Aug 28, 2011, 08:11 PM

How old are you? Doesn't really matter what her friends say does it? She will do as she pleases won't she?

timmy8493 · Aug 28, 2011, 08:48 PM

I'm 18

Homegirl 50 · Aug 29, 2011, 06:05 AM

What her friends tell her has nothing to do with how she feels.
You both are young. There will be other girls. This was a learning and trial period and it didn't work out.
Time to lick your wounds and move on.

talaniman · Aug 29, 2011, 07:10 AM

Chalk this up as a learning experience, and a preview of the fun you will have dating many in the future.

If you stay cool, calm, and collected, and don't get carried away by your feelings, and are cautious who you give your heart to, then you will enjoy your a$$ off.

Just be honest, and don't be a player, as you already know how it hurts to think you got something and then find out you don't! That's the difference between a player, and a GOOD human being. HONESTY.

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