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    rickbarb Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 10, 2009, 11:38 AM
    Girlfriend says she needs a break after I told her she was bad in bed
    Ok so today my girlfriend told me that she needs to be away from me for a couple days. This all stems from a conversation yesturday when she was telling me about her friend and how she uses lube. I said that I wished we had more exciting sex. She started getting mad and hounded me with questions on what I meant by that. I said that our sex just wasn't the best I've had. Now I realize this was the wrong thing to say but it was in the heat of the moment. She freaked right out and is really upset right now. She told she wanted to alone for a while. Now I know I screwed up big I told her I was sorry( and I truly meant it) but she just won't forgive me. I really love this girl and don't know what I'd do without her. So any advice on what I could do to smooth this over would be help full
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    Jun 10, 2009, 11:47 AM

    This major foul up will probably just need sometime to heal... give her the space she is requesting, when she contacts you following the time, apologize, apologize, apologize.

    Find a better way to show her what you would like in bed, it takes two people for anyone to be bad in the bedroom, you aren't showing any skill of your own to put all of the blame on her.
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    Jun 10, 2009, 11:53 AM

    She started getting mad and hounded me with questions on what I meant by that.
    You blew the perfect opportunity to give her the answers to her questions.
    I said that our sex just wasn't the best I've had.
    WRONG ANSWER.
    Now I realize this was the wrong thing to say but it was in the heat of the moment
    So now your in big time doghouse, rightfully so.

    Give her some time to cool off, and then apologize, and admit what an uncaring boob you can be, and hope she goes for it.
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    Jun 10, 2009, 01:51 PM
    If you didn't like your sex life with her you should have been able to discuss it in a mature, open matter.

    Saying what you said was harsh and I know you would have been hurt if she told you sex with you was bad and she had better. Your pride would have been wounded.

    Next time, if there is a next time, tell her your likes and dislikes. Don't start your sentences off with things like "you never or I don't like". Start them off with "I would like it if you_ or maybe we should try__" You have word things more carefully because words hurt and they leave a sting.

    After all, if you can't talk about sex then you shouldn't be having it.
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    Jun 10, 2009, 02:04 PM

    O man! This was probably one of the moments to LIE lol.

    I made mistake of doing this once, OMG never again, you be in dog house long time, because even if begin to get back together, over next several times of sexual intercourse, she will be wondering couple things.

    1. who was it that was better

    2. what that person did that was better then her
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    Jun 10, 2009, 02:28 PM

    This is one of the rare cases where I do thinking lying works.

    Mazda is right, it's a double edge sword. I would let the emotional dust settle and hope she forgives you,

    I hope you can send flowers, a bunch of flowers. You have a lot of butt kissing to do
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    Jun 10, 2009, 02:39 PM

    Over the years I learned to keep my mouth shut when it comes to sex. Even saying, "man that was good" got me into trouble, and I could see her point, she said it's although I was expecting it to suck.

    She won't forget this, so don't make the same mistake again.
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    Jun 10, 2009, 03:04 PM

    Ya I think this is probably beyond repair. Cause if we do get back together, she never forget about it and it'll probably cause more fights later
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    Jun 10, 2009, 03:06 PM
    There are other ways of explaining to her that you are unhappy with the sex life. Telling her how much she sucks (which is what you basically did), isn't going to help you.

    If you can't do the time, don't do the crime. It's dog house for a while for you.

    Hopefully you learnt your lesson. When she cools down, apologize again and show some sincerity and maturity.

    Quote Originally Posted by rickbarb View Post
    Ya I think this is probly beyond repair. Cause if we do get back together, she never forget about it and it'll probly cause more fights later
    Well if you're going to be so pessimistic, then, yes, it's over. Relationships take hard work. If you're willing to give up so easily because of such a mistake, then you mine as well give up on all relationships.

    She might seem extremely pissed now, so just give her some time to cool off. She can't stay angry forever. Once she's calmer, then you can do your apologizing properly and she will be able to absorbe your apologies more objectively.
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    Jun 10, 2009, 03:14 PM

    Ya this is true ill give it a couple days and see if she calls.

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