Okay here is my situation...I have been dating a girl named Kristin for four years. We are the best of friends. I treated her so well..vacations, dinners, manners, ect. All of a sudden over the past three weeks she has been acting diiferently. A lack of affection, she seems to have lost interest in being romantic almost having me asking about sex. I have been trying to figure out what is going through her head. She has just been acting unhappy and she has had lots of stress at work. Our sex life wasnt always great and we both had diffucluties at times.Our relationship has been awesome up until recently. We never have fought before and this is why her asking for a break for a few weeks has hit me so hard.She says the problem was a lack of physical chemistry and she wasn't sure if it was something she could change or not. She said that she needs to take some time to be selfish and evaluate herself where she is at. When breaking up with me she also said that I was a fantastic boyfriend and that I deserved much better treatment than she was giving me(ex:being romantic more, showing affection, the things couples do) She also said that it was not right of her to do this to me that there are certain things a girlfriend should want to do for a boy. She felt as though she needed to figure out when she started to act this way and why. She was emotional at the time of the breakup crying. I pleaded on the phone several times with her after this to work things out together. She keeps giving me the same anwer and I am just so confused about things. How is it that two people who care about each other and are hurt by this break cannot see there is something there and work it out. I dont know what to do . I write emails to her and text message i miss u so much and get no response. She finally called me and said that she cannot figure things out until I give her the space. Another issue may have been that I had mentioned the future alot and talked about getting a place together down the road. I am 30 and she is 25 and I really love her sooo much. Its tough. What do I do?

BMI

Gotta back off buddy!

NO MATTER how it hurts you gotta give her the space. ANYTHING you saytoher now will hurt you. In some cases, girls will stay away but remember the good times,but in order to see that they need to live life w/o you for awhile, if you push she will run, u gotta be strong.

If she is leaving and not coming back than whatever you say will not change that, its up to her now, i know it sucks but it may work itself out!

John3977

Well it has been a week since we took a break and 2 days since we haven't talked. Iwas suprised and recieved a call from her today. We discussed maybe getting together to see a movie. I told her we don't have to talk about the problems, just go out and enjoy each other company and see what happens. Lets hope this is the right approach.

Homegirl 50

I hope things work out, but until she says she wants you back, give her some space. She recognises there is a problem and wants to fix it. She sounds pretty smart to me.

John3977

We left off as me saying for her to give me a call later and she said maybe.I said no problem enjoy your day. Should I text her with a thank you for calling or let her call me again when she's ready?

mckenzie134

Do nothing. Get busy .....

Dont answer next time HELL she wants a break and your calling her...

Get busy living lkife and she will be back. Next time she calls and mentions a movie say your busy. Dont worry leave her at home alone she is only using you thats why she asked for the break then wants to see a movie. your moving on dont fall into her trap. Let her be confused while you move on.

Ash123

Read this asap.

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...sh-114179.html

Good luck.

needofhelp

The post ash123 provided is good to read. The link embedded in the body of the post leads to the main page. Click on the link in the signature.

I'm going through the same thing after a relationship of 2 years. Go No Contact with her, the sooner you stop thinking about her or analyzing the situation, the sooner you can start healing. There are no answers, and if you try to find them and keep contacting her, you will not be happy.

Everyone is going to tell you, go no contact, get busy, working, working out, hobbies, friends. It's going to be tough, but you will be ok, just like the rest of us. It will take time, and have your good and bad days. You are not alone. We are there for you.

John3977

The thing is that she says she loves me still and is just at a point in life where she needs to figure herself out. She is not a calous person and I believe in her calling me that there is something still there. She says that she has not taken down any of our memories and that she is not going anywhere. Why is it that women are so damn confused all the time. The hardest part is that we are the best of friends and everything just feels so right when were together. She obviously wants to work things out regardless of wether she says it or not. Maybe she just needs time. Every situation is different and I hope that we can reconcile.Im sure at 25 the pressure of a guy talking about moving a step further must have scared her and made her feel to much pressure and this may be my fault for mentioning it so damn much. I don't know. Sometimes life sucks. For her to just call me up after telling me that she needs space even confuses me more. Now she texts me back and we talked again for a few minutes.I think from today on I will make no contact with her until she calls again. I just hate waiting for the final answer from her on wether things can be worked out or not. This is a girl I feel like I want to spend the rest of my life with and we have had such good times that I hope maybe she will see those and make the right decision.

kuulski

I feel for you. Me and my ex were together for the same amount of time. For us timing was a big issue. I went through a tornado in my personal life as soon as we got together. Lost my best friends and my brother in the same 12 month period. It was very stressful for both of us. I love her to death still today and miss her but I know the time apart is for both of us. I needed to get my head on straight just as much as she did. She actually did me a favor a HUGE favor. I realized allot of the things and it helped me focus. I cant say I wouldnt take her back I am sure I would right now. However I have several things I would want addressed. I dont really think too much into us getting back together I know that what we had was special. I know how special it was for me but I dont know if it is a 100 percent mutual. Maybe she has other plans and I am not included. I dont know. But the fear of not knowing is what is gone now. Good Luck!