Girlfriend loves me and ex?

Talaniman Rule - Never get involved with some one thats still seeing the EX!!!

Your feelings just don't matter as much as the exes will, and she dumped you to avoid conflict while she still pursues him. Forget friends, back way of and keep you dignity and self respect, because even if you do hang around her as a friend, her heart will be somewhere else.

You don't get some one back my friend, they have to return on there own or it will mean NOTHING!! If she comes back, it will be for comfort, NOT the love you hope for.

DISAPPEAR, heal, move beyond this misery, frustration, pain, and shock.

Leave! Had this happen to me. Leave now

I really have to wonder if she fell head over heals in love with you or not?

Did she really like her ex, then he dumped her, and now she is still longing to be with him? I really have no details of what the ex did to separate from her, but if he dumped her, and is now trying to get back, she may still have had feelings for him, and wants to be with him. You are now in the way and by saying "Lets stay friends" she is probably just being polite in asking you to bug off, you will not be intimate again.

You really have to find out if she wants to be intimate with you or the ex. If she really wants to be with the Ex, there is no point in hanging around anymore. Sorry to be the third person to bring up the bad news, but I think it has happened.

However if she does not want to be with the Ex, then why did she see him in the first place?

I also think it is a lost cause, but you can still talk with her and find out if it is a lost cause, or still something worth making up. You do need to let her know that you feel very insecure when she is seeing a ex, and explain that both sides of the coin, how would she feel seeing you with a ex girlfriend, would that make her feel secure? Probably not.

Maybe she was meeting up with her ex to return something, or pick up items that he had kept for a while. Yet if she keeps seeing him, it indicates it is a lost cause, and she really wanted to be with him, you where just a temporary replacement.

Good luck,

I hope that something works out for you,

Fred.

Well they apparently cuddled last night yet she said she loved me a few days ago and didn't know what she'd do without me. They broke up because he said I love you and she ran away, and the ex and her are friends, but she started liking him again, should I try and talk to her at school tomorrow? I know it sounds bad but I have always been depressed unless I'm with her... So any tips on how to win her back from her ex? She said I don't listen I'm going to work on that, we were friends for 2 years before dating so should we be friends again?

When you get dumped you disappear and get your head together. Not spin your wheels on schemes and tricks. Then when your own head is on straight, you can consider friends again, or anything else.

There is no short cut to happiness, and depending on being with another as the basis for your happiness is like a dope fiend who needs a fix, and goes crazy when he can't get it.

Like she said, you are not listening.

She says she still loves me but not a lot, so can I do anything...

She loves you but doesn't want you back. Yes there is a lot you can do for yourself, nothing for her.

It is possible for her to love you still, but right now she is more attracted to her ex. As others have said, leaving on your terms is the best way to make her choose you.

However, you can still attract her back by keeping things casual after your breakup. Continue being friendly and flirtatious with her after the fact. This is called "flipping the script". Basically you are putting her in the same position she had you in. It can work well if you are confident and persistent

Now she says that all the feelings for me are gone... Do you think she's just saying that? How do I keep things casual... And do you still think I have a shot if she said that..