My girlfriend and I have been together for six months. I know for some of you it might not seem like long, but I see her everyday and spend a ton of my available time with her. In all that time I've come to love her madly, I swear I have. She says she has too, and I believe her. If you don't believe that what we are experiencing is love, lets call it a very strong like. Anyway recently we've been talking about this camp she went to last summer, and about this one guy she met there. She started having feelings for him too, eventually love/like him apparently. She told me they both liked each other, and told each other about it, but didn't do anything because she didn't want to hurt me (no cheating on me). Now she's back with me and loves me, and does not plan to dump me to go for the other guy. It took a lot of courage from her to tell me about this and I really appreciate that, she couldve very well kept it as a secret. But she chose to tell me, which I think is very good, even though I hate this, I'm glad she did tell me after all. I definitely don't want to lose her either. I feel like if I break up with her over this not only will it break my own heart, it will break hers too. The problem is she talked to him every single day, talked on the phone with him and everything. She's had made plans to go visit him (they were canceled since they don't have the same vacation times(the problem is that she had intentions of going over there) and stuff like that since he lives far away (maybe the reason she doesn't dump me for him?). I feel uncomfortable with everything about him, even though I'm sure he's a really cool and nice guy. I asked her who she would choose, she said when she is with me, she would choose me, but she she is with the guy, she would choose him. So to me it seems like she prefers the other guy but doesn't want to tell me because she doesn't want to hurt me more than she already has. So I don't know what to do about this. I don't want things to change between me and her, yet I really hate having to think about her having feelings for another guy. I told er that if she wants to keep me, she has to cut all connection with the other guy. She has, yet I've caught her twice already talking to him, not really a big deal because its over 3 week period but still. She claims to have used those times to explain the situation to him but I have a hard time believing that. She also claims to have gotten over him already only in 2 weeks(its been a month since I know). I don't think ill ever feel quite comfortable with them even being just friends. Any advice? Thanks.

Don get confused with things
Make her clear that you are nt comfortable with tat guy's relation
If your gal really loves you she l surely throw him out of her life
If nothing happens
Just stay away.. Dnt involve with her so intimate which l hurt u
Either try to accept tat guy or try to forget your gal friend
I know it l b hurting for you to get separated bt still its one time in life
Else if you continue it l gv you more pain each and every single moment
Take care

Sounds like she's just staying with you because it's convenient. If she leaves you for him it's not really going to work out since he lives so far away an their schedules don't match, but she can still have a relationship with you since you live close and it works out for her. If my boyfriend loved another girl, that'd be the end of it, we'd break up. I love him so much, but you can't do both. If you're thinking about another person, then you're not really into the one you're with now.
If she really does stop talking to this guy and is over him, then I hope you guys are happy together, but if she isn't, I'd break it off.

I don't believe in worrying about competition for anyone's affections, nor who they make, and talk to as friends, But while you are so madly in love (or strong like), I doubt seriously if you know each other that well after only 6 months to judge whether her words are just wistful fantasy or an actual plan she intends to pursue, or her efforts to brew jealousy.

Just so you know, most couples, almost all are madly in love in the first 6 months (or even a year), and the rude awakening comes AFTER the honeymoon, and the intense initial feelings of attraction that has blinded you somewhat, have worn off. Reality takes over because now you see what you got yourself into, and reality has set in and the real work of maintaining a relationship begins.

But for now, don't trip, just pay attention to see whether her WORDS, and ACTIONS match. Pretty simple, if she has a ticket to where he is, then you are out of there, and until then, enjoy getting to know each other.

Talaniman Rule-Never put all your eggs in a stranger's basket. Save some for your own basket.

Talaniman Rule- Give yourself 6 months of dating and getting to know someone, before you decide together to be DATING EXCLUSIVELY, and having fun getting to know each other.

Talaniman Rule- never be in a hurry to give your heart to a stranger. Wait until they have proven they deserve it, and know what to do with it.

Talaniman Rule- Doesn't matter how intense the feelings, or how much fun you have, never give your heart to someone you don't know well, and that's only after the lust has worn off for you both.

Talaniman Rules-Never assume that your feelings are shared by any one else.

Listen to what Tal says. He speaks the truth. From time to time I need to refresh myself on his rules to keep myself from venturing down the dark path of lust (very hard not to), infatuation, confusion, and pain.

You both have not been together for very long, but from my experience, if she really, really likes you, at this point in time she wouldn't even be looking at other guys. IMO, This is a big red flag. You guys haven't even passed the one year mark and she is already falling for other guys.

I know you love/like her, but don't allow yourself to fall into the trap and

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put all your eggs in a stranger’s basket. Save some for your own basket.

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(Best rule ever!)

Proceed with extreme caution. If you getting suspicious and start feeling more pain than pleasure while you are around her, it would probably be a good time cut your losses, because being involved in a "love triangle" is not a good place to be. Been there, done that, suffered for months.