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My girlfriend tells me that she loves me and i believe her, we have been together for about 3 months and things have been going great, recently, however, we have been fighting about some things and we have realized that i can be too clingy and controlling at times and i recognize that and am trying to work on it, also, i have been away from her for the past week or so because of sickness and i cant be there for her when she needs me. that being said, while i was away she had some issues and went to a guy friend of hers who is a friend of both her and me, he is a very nice and caring guy, but there is one problem, he likes my girlfriend and he told her so. last night i finally got out of the house and met with her and she confessed that she does have some feelings for him, but that she also loves me and i believe her, she has also said that she needs space to concentrate on other things in her life and i understand that and need time of my own. she has also told me that she will always love me and will always be there for me, but she doesnt know if she wants to be my girlfriend anymore, maybe friends would be better she said. i dont want to go from being her boyfriend to being only her bestfriend because i love this girl and i want to be with her through both the good and the bad times, i think that we can work through this together even though she says that she truly doesnt know what she wants to happen. i love this girl and i want to be with her, but i dont know what to do anymore. if anyone could offer some advice, i would be very happy to hear it.
When she says she loves you, she means it's the kind of love that goes away when you're not in the room...
It sounds to me like she is either trying to let you down easy so she doesn't hurt your feelings too badly, or is keeping you on the line in case her better offer doesn't work out.
She's not committed to a relationship with you... You're a second choice.
It's like a slap in the face. I love you, but I like someone else, too. It just doesn't sound right, no matter how you put it. Move on, my friend, and find someone who will appreciate you.
Sorry but she doesnt love you. And not just because she is jerking around with one of your mates, but because she doesnt even properly know you yet. You cant fall in love after 3 months. Not in my opinion anyway. It takes time to develop true love.
Anyway, that doesnt even come into it when she says she has feelings for someone else as well.
Id be getting as far away from her as possible. Realise it was only 3 months and be thankful you didnt stick around longer to get hurt even more by this girl because that is the all she is going to do to you.
Go a little slower in the future and move forward with your eyes and ears open for signs like this.
I can understand the confusion, but she has let you down easy and has other things on her mind. If you can accept this, and go quietly and move on with your life and leave her alone, the confusion will clear and you can save yourself a lot of bad emotions. We call it NO CONTACT to give yourself a chance to heal from a break up. Sorry. She may try to put you in friend zone but with your feelings still fresh and the shock of being dumped still new thats a bad idea. Disappear from her life basically, until you can deal with it better and your emotions are under control.
thank you for your responses, and slowly but surely i think i am coming to the realization that what you are sayings is right, but its somewhat more complicated because she has told me that i am her bestfriend and she has told me that she doesnt want to lose me in that facility if and when we break off our relationship, also we are both in kind of deep because we both have had and continue to lead very rough lives and we have come to depend on each other to be there to here and listen to each other and help each other through things, i if we do break it off i dont know if ill be able to be there for her because i am hurt so bad. and during this fight, things in both of our lives suffer because we cant work it out and other things that she love suffer because this fight is in the back of her mind. i want to stay with her, because our past was so good and i want to have good times like that in the future, because she is one of the few people that can make me truly happy, but she can also make me feel like this. There is little doubt in my mind anymore what will happen between us, but if someone could offer me some advice on how to get through it it would be received with the deepest of gratitude.
Sorry bud, but she does not want to be your girlfriend anymore. I agree with others she was trying to let you down easily.
3 months is not really that long and there will be girls that come and go. Just take this time to realize this is nothing you did. No matter what you think.
Best thing you can do now is nothing. Absolutely nothing. Just do your own thing, Enjoy your own time. You need to let this one go.
i know that it has been great advice on what i should do in the situation itself, what i meant was what i should do if we do break it off, like how to go on
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