My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years. About early December last year she became very distant and that's when she admitted to me she does not feel anything more me any more. She kept things from me like she went out drinking with her friends one night so I would not get mad at her. Then finals were over and we were back at home for a month as happy as we could be, she said she loved me and we had a great time and everything was normal except for one fight where she freaked out over something stupid. Then we finally get to school again and she does the same routine where she ignores me and does not want to hang out with me/ avoids hanging out with me. Then after a week or so I ask why the hell are you not spending any time with me and ignoring my calls? She apologized crying said she was a bad girlfriend and said she needed to take a break. We took a break for a couple days and were still talking a decent amount, eventually I felt she wanted out so I said do what makes you happy, so I let her break up with me and it took her a while to do it because I was right in front of her and she didn't want to say it. Also mind you when we decided to take a break the first time she once again said she does not love me. But she says she cares about me than almost anyone and that she wants me in her life always. So it has been a week since we broke up, I tried texting her here and there about random things but she says every text msg and every time we talk kills her inside because she knows how much she has hurt me, mind you she has been starving herself and has lost more than 8lbs in the past week or so. There we was night after the break up when we talked on the phone both crying and she says she wants to get back together with me down the road and we both said we miss each other. It has been a week and I have been browsing through these forums and I feel like wow, I thought what me and my girlfriend has was special, she seriously wanted to marry me last year, but I feel like she is the same as every girl out there. So do you people think that this break up is for real and she wants to move on with her life? What should I do? I almost left out the most important part, when she broke up she said no sex with other girls... I mean do you think she said that just because she is hurting now or because she thinks we have a shot down the road? If we break up for good I am not staying as her friend and I will cut her out of my life.

Thanks for any advice.

George_1950

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rockerchick_682

This girl is all over the place. She has no idea what she wants. Cut her out of your life now. From personally experience "breaks" are pointless. You're either together or your not. She wants you or she doesn't, and if she can't decide, screw her, find someone who can decide.

engrce

Thanks for the help, we had a long talk and we're going to stay really good friends because that was what we were before our relationship. Shes not going to date anyone because she says she wants to be single and be with her friends. I'm just going to focus on my work and go out a lot more and join a frat.

MissingHim2Much

In your original post you said if you were breaking up you weren't going to be her friend, that you were going to cut her out of your life...What changed????

engrce

I was kinda angry when I wrote the first post and I talked to her face to face and I really forgot how much fun we can have.

ISneezeFunny

oof.

y'know, I'm not against the whole "being friends" part...but imagine this. Within the next week or so, if she starts hanging around with another guy, are you going to be ok with that? What if you hear that she made out with this new guy...are you going to be ok with that?

Listen to people on this site. Look at the 2 stickies...look at my story, look at ihatewestseneca's story, duck22's...wot2do's...it's all the same.

"i need time...i need space" and sometimes, we see our exes with another guy within a week or two...and it sucks that much more.

Looking at the stickies will tell you exactly what's going to happen. It's amazing how it follows protocol. Keep busy my friend. Good luck.

engrce

Yeah we kind of subtly agreed not to date other people, because we both really need to be single. She is not mentally fit to handle another relationship now. Even if we were back together we would have the same problems as before, this break up is so we can find out who we are and fix our flaws. Then maybe down the line if we've both changed and are single and still friends, chances are we'll give it a go.

ISneezeFunny

I understand...

1. my ex told me that she couldn't live without me...and that she couldn't even handle a relationship...as we broke up.

2. she got with someone within 3 days of our breakup.

...yeah...she may be a "slut" or you may think, "not my ex...she's not like that"...trust me. we've all been there. done that. my ex had the reputation of a saint. ...then this mess.

MissingHim2Much

Friends with my ex, NEVER GONNA HAPPEN. Like i've said before he left me for someone else and I didnt feel the need to invite them over for dinner.