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Does anyone having a hard time to determine "emotional appeal" scam online?
Does anyone having a hard time to determine "emotional appeal" scam online?
Im a Filipino, involved in an american (online too) for a year now.My BF has been flirting on-line for 10yrs before he met me and he was confused the same thing as reallywondering. Not all the time we mean what we say, not all the time we say what we mean and confusion is understandable.
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Originally Posted by CFZD
You need to notice some culture difference, in most asian cultures, when someone says she doesn't have money for something, that means you need to buy for her!
American culture is different, you guys are more direct than most asians.
If you read about the business culture in Asia, you will realize that the way they express their needs are less direct as Americans. Americans misunderstand a lot of their words, not Americans' fault, just culture difference.
CFZD is right that we (asians) express our needs more indirectly because we balance expressing our need against pride. We don't want to look so lowly but we need to ask. We don't want the person we're asking us feel compeled either ,because its harder here to say "NO".
If you notice a girl is Mostly talk about her lack of money, repeated misfortunes, unending illness and tearjerking living conditions (which is most likely true), rather than talking about positive side of life, and have a good time , the guy should start to doubt that he's being tried to be milked...You're emotionally manipulated, BIG TIME!
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Originally Posted by reallywondering
She has said she has no passport and has no money for it. She has said she has no money for many things. I told her to buy this phone, she said it will take a long time to save up. But she doesn't beg. I dont know.......
On the other hand, the girl will be lying if she'll pretend that she has something what she doesnt have, right? If you asked questions talked about long time ago and she answered with consistency, then her story is a legit.( and just back it up with more scrutiny) She's poor and just feel gratefull that your country is first world.
My BF almost fell on his chair when I told him that I don't have a shower. I am not implying to him to send me money to install a shower! I just mentioned it because he asked whats our restroom like. I don't have fridge, I dont have microwave oven, and so? But when I talk to my BF it's not what I don't have that we talk about MOSTLY although he teases me that I live in prehistoric civilization.
again, does anyone having a hard time to determine "emotional appeal" scam?
Guys sorry to interrupt, but what does scam mean ? I can't believe u don't have Fridge :\!! I am Egyptian people think we live in the pyramids and we ride camels!! Suprisingly!!! I have my own car, we have buildings.. lots of them, amazing designes btw! and we live normally like anyother
That's so true! Its sound like a scam to me. So who computer does you use?
I use computer in the office I work and to the cafe's close to my home. A lot doesn't have computer there are available ones U can rent specially those nearby in schools.
I have a TV, i have washer, fan and was able to watch IDOL GIVES BACK. There are stories featured there that have similarities in our situation here. B]I understand apprehensions but IM SADDENED THAT A LOT ASSOCIATE THE TRUTH OF SCARCITY AS SCAM. YOU ALL MOST LIVE IN FIRST WORLD COUNTRY, [/b]so just be grateful that u don't have to eat from garbage, sleep under the bridge, like some of my fellows here. Just be grateful people. Not everyone get a nice place to sleep and delicious food to taste.When I was a kid, i dont have a toy, i cant buy notebook and eraser and I cant have childrens party because we're so poor. My mother told me to study hard so I can have good job someday and make my own money. I was able to pass in state university,graduated In college in 2003, now getting a masteral degree.Im earning good money now I just dont buy so much appliances because Im used to having nothing anyway. But I plan buying some. As I look back, I was way different years ago and my future children will be a lot better to compare when I was a girl. Not all stories of poverty is scam thats my point of writing this but u can always free to prey.Truth has nothing to hide.
Guys sorry to interrupt, but what does scam mean ? I can't believe u don't have Fridge :\!! I am Egyptian people think we live in the pyramids and we ride camels!! Suprisingly!!! I have my own car, we have buildings.. lots of them, amazing designes btw! and we live normally like anyother
scam
Pronunciation: \ˈskam\
Function: noun
Etymology: origin unknown
Date: 1963
: a fraudulent or deceptive act or operation
Basicly I assume they are all scams, esp if they are from specific areas of the world. And how they happen to meet.
Had to spread it again dear.
I too believe that for the most part, if one is only contacting people through the internet - there is usually a reason behind this. And, not just on the women's side - men don't always tell the truth either.
It's up to each of us to determine what happens when the 'curtain rises'.
When I was living in Georgia, I volunteered to teach Korean and Phillipino ladies to learn english so that they could pass their citizenship tests. This taught me a lot about different cultural issues and the state of mind embedded to them through influence and how they should act to survive. I must admit that it was a 50/50 chance for the men they married that these ladies would wind up still being married to them once they got their 'independence'.
Just more proof that nothing in life is guaranteed.
Its just its so disturbing that a lot of to generalize "This girl from (country) just married him for to come in the U.S.A and after getting greencard he dumped him." It's so biased and unfair because we don't know what happens behind close doors, but you're right Cherry survival rate is 50/50. Couple's who didn't spend so much time together due to distance has more challenge in adjustment. I'll speak to my fellowmen; we're loyal partners. We dont have divorce here and marriage is a big deal to us, unlike in west. As much as we can bear, we stay and separation is not an option. I knew friends who married whites and they have good intention for getting into it. and US embassy is so strict on marriages over internet. If the girl separated with the guy after getting the green card, she realized long before that that she can't stay for some reason and just waited for that GC to compensate her headaches. If they ended up in divorce is because of the cultural and lifestyle difference, not because they already got what they want. Why some go back here anyway?
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