Girlfriend And I On Break, Be There For Her?

I think you should tell her what you really feel about her , like you said she might feel the same about you ,telling her what you really feel we'll help the situation I think

*hope that helps little bit

Then since she made that choice, let her live by it. If she wanted you in her life she should have kept it that way. But I can already tell you she sees you as a friend only which is why she took this “break.” Break was the easy way for her to let you down easy. She sees you as a friend, nothing more.

No you don’t. You love her more than many things. She does not feel the same way about you.

It sounds every bit like a silly high school relationship. Let’s at least get honest about it. Let’s quit living in fantasy land and start facing the facts of what’s really going on.

You felt it. You can not speak for her. I normally couldn’t speak for her but I will do so anyways. She sees you as a friend. That is why she dumped you. Because if she really truly loved you she wouldn’t dump you. That is for real.

I’m not sure what w.e. Stands for so I didn’t quite get that. But I believe you should take a break for awhile and refocus yourself on you life. But yes you should go with the break.

You are. Like I said she sees you as a friend. Your in the trap many guys fall into. Your in the friend zone. You’re her doormat to drop all her problems on. She sees you as another one of the girls and treats you accordingly. She drops all her problems on you, gets a confidence boost then moves on. Women want men, not another woman because if you act like a woman then they treat you like one. When she calls crying she acts just like she would to her friends.

Quit contact now. Remember she initiated the break up. While if that’s what she wanted then give it to her.

Okay you sound like a woman with a silly high school crush there. “Sweetie only reserved for the other, regardless of other relationship?” Come on. First that’s a lie. If she met or meets someone new who calls her sweetie then she’s not going to tell him not to call her that. Secondly it totally sounds like something a woman would say. Remember she wants a man, not another woman. If you want to call her something that nobody else would call her, and I’m not sure why that’s even important to be honest, then call her a nickname that matches her personality.

Also it’s not your job to comfort her when she’s sad. She asked for the break so give it too her. Let her problems belong to someone else now.

I really didn’t get all that but the gist of it was, I think, that you still tell each other your I love you. Well she’s lying. If she really did she’d be with you.

Here’s what’s really going on. Your emotional and you miss her. You’ve become a doormat for her to complain and whine too and she knows this and is stringing you along. Your going to be the back up plan. Your going to be number 2...or 3 or 4 when whatever she tries with someone else doesn’t work out.

Ala proof.

Oh jeez. More proof. Not only that she’s actually telling you. I’ve got to admit that takes something. I’m not even sure what. Courage or stupidity. Wow. Seriously that only confirms she sees you as a doormat backup plan. When things don’t work out she’ll contact you until someone else comes along.

Your not on full break. Full break means getting her out of your life.

Well that’s not going to happen. She sees you as a friend….actually she sees you more as a doormat. She has no respect for you.

In other words at school she puts on the act but when she needs to , whine, complain, moan, or groan she calls you first away from them.

Actually you need to quit talking to her. Like yesterday.

First, she’s not your best friend. I question weather she’s a friend at all to be honest. But sharing your feelings with her is what women do when they talk to each other. This is what I mean when I say she sees you as another woman. Your not acting like a man. You need to be worried about you and not give a damn about what she thinks.

She doesn’t feel the same way. She might tell you she does but she’s lying. The reality is I don’t see you getting her back. She sees you as the doormat. The only way to get out of this is to quit contact with her. If she calls and starts her usual whining I’d flat out tell her that you don’t have time for that anymore. I probably follow that up with your problems belong to you and not me, and you gave up the privilege of me trying to help you with them when you made the decision to break. NOT ONE of her girlfriends talk like that. They all sit around and whine together. Get yourself out of that pack and stand up for yourself like a man would do. She’s probably going to come back at you with something stupid like, “well I thought we were friends and could share with each other” to which you should reply “I’m looking for different things than you can offer in both friendship and a relationship. I’m sorry I just can’t be around someone who brings me down all the time.” Then I’d end that phone call. You talk about turning the tables. That would make her wonder what the hell just happened. That would make her wonder exactly who she’s dealing with. That would even create a little mystery.

On top of that what’s she going to do, complain to her friends that you stood up to her, put her in her place, and said that she whines to much. Please. She’s got nothing.

That’s a suggestion of what you could do. The truth is though I think you need to get rid of her. I think she sees you as a doormat and didn’t value you when she had you.

Leave her alone and stop torturing yourself, not healthy. Get a life of your own and stop letting her put the screws to you, She does not care how you feel. Wise up and move on.

If you're on a break then you're on a break. I'd cut off all contact with her. If she confronts you as to why, remind her that you're on a break. If she protests and states that she still wants to be friends, tell her that it's all or nothing. Then one of two things will happen ; either you'll get back together or you move on with your life. Either way, she'll respect you for being man enough to take a stand and stick by it.

No do not stay in contact at all. Leave her alone. Move on. If she comes back, ok.

People Want What They Can't Have. ALWAYS! Forever.

She has you.

I am quite sure she doesn;t feel the same as you- you sound like a love sick puppy.

Stay out of the friend zone!

Just to let you know I am kind of going through the same thing. My girlfriend said that she wanted a 2 week break tonight to see what happens and we will at least be friends she said. I Love Her so much and it is hard. I don't know if you believe in God or not but if you do just trust in him and that everything he does is for a reason even though we don't what it is. Just put all your faith in him.

Welllll.... I'm back been reading all your responces and I've stuck to my way of doing things and I stuck with her....... And I got her back and its a lot better after like two months..... So whoever said I shouldn't stay with her is wrong and well thanks to anyone who supported me

So it didn't work out with the other guy she was hanging around?

Apparently not. And even though she is back(?) as a few others here have also made that claim, I'm waiting to see how long it lasts.