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rockyroad1 · Jul 4, 2010, 03:26 AM

My girlfriend has been living with me for about 2 years and left for a break because needed time to think for about month now. We agreed prior to relationship no marriage and kids and now she wants both. I have offered her these two things to save relationship and she recently broke it of with me but now changed her mind and feels guilty and still confused. She has been talking to a guy who is trying to break us apart buy saying his happy to marry and have kids . She came to conclusion he doesn't know her and just in it for one thing and got rid of him. She says they only where talking at work. She now feels guilty and confused and still needs time what should I do ?

I wish · Jul 4, 2010, 05:58 AM

The question is, how much longer are you willing to wait? Who knows how much longer this can drag out, but one thing is clear. To have a healthy relationship, you should work together to sort out any issues, as opposed to being apart. Asking for a break to sort out issues means that you're a burden to each other and can't focus/concentrate with the other person around. That's a clear sign of a weak relationship.

Even if you get back together, you're fighting an uphill battle. If you can't work out the issues that put you in a break in the first place, then things will only blow up again.

Ask yourself, is she worth it? Are you willing to work it out with her? Then, even if you're committed, how committed is she really? One-way relationship don't really end well.

talaniman · Jul 4, 2010, 06:16 AM

Give her what she asked for, and leave her alone to un-confuse herself. Do your thing, whether she comes back or NOT.

Clearly she is receptive to other options, and opportunities, so let her do whatever she wants. Sorry guy but what good is having an unwilling partner, who you have to convince to be with you, and can't work with you to build a life together.

You may be wanting that, but its clear she does not. You don't break up because you are confused, you talk it out, and she is unwilling to. Don't be thrown off by her excuse for this break (which is a break up), as she was not confused that she wanted to be away from you. Take the hint, and leave her alone and back off gracefully with dignity, and self respect.

positiveparent · Jul 4, 2010, 12:54 PM

Cut your loses and let her go, if she going to want a break every time you and she have issues to deal with which should be dealt with as a couple not just one of you then this relationship isn't going to go the distance, you're merely prolonging the inevitable.

So end it now.

vanheart · Jul 4, 2010, 06:49 PM

Time to think, yeah right.

She's shopping. Let her.

She sounds shallow. Don't you be.

Only one thing to do. Never have any contact with her again.

rockyroad1 · Jul 5, 2010, 06:42 AM

She has recently said she is willing to return in a week . What if she extends it again - what to do

rockyroad1 · Jul 16, 2010, 05:12 AM

Girlfriend left me to think for 6 weeks. Hid her relationship from me and lied to me about it when asked if she seeing someone else. Had issues with my attitude to getting married and me being ready as I've come from a divorce. Back home with me now after someone decided to pop the question to break us apart and she saying yes but now regretting it as she says still loves me and has feelings for me . Engagement lasted 2 weeks with other guy who is now heart broken as she was unhappy and thinking about me all time and said yes as felt bad at time to say no. What should I do

hidden123 · Jul 16, 2010, 06:33 AM

Don't rush into anything with her. Take it slow.

talaniman · Jul 16, 2010, 06:44 AM

Oh No No No! She would have to find another sucker, because if you put up with bad behavior, you will get more of it. That's an ironclad guarantee.

Lying, cheating, and deceiving is a deal breaker, and that's NOT a healthy way to love any one. You have enough facts to make a good decision for yourself, DO SO!!

Kitkat22 · Jul 16, 2010, 07:03 AM

Why do you even ask? She's a cheater and a liar and you want her back? What's wrong with you?

Leave her alone.. she's using you and I would say the other guy found out she was cheating... that's why she left.

Don't be so easy... She's a user.