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i just broke up with my boyfriend of 7 months because we only saw each other once a month and talked maybe 2 to 3 times a week, for no good reason. a month or two earlier i had already told him i didn't like it, he promised it would change. we were pretty serious but i just couldn't take never talking to or seeing him anymore. i wrote him a little letter that basically said you don't ever make time for me so f-you go to hell. i wrote him that letter because two weeks earlier i had called him to talk about this to see if we could fix it, again. i couldn't tell him everything that night so he said he would call me back in a few days so i could think and then we could talk. he didn't call so 4 or 5 days later i called him and he said he would call me back that night and he promised. he didn't call back so every day for a week i called him, he never answered or returned my calls. then the next week i called again and his phone said it was out of service. so thats when i gave him that letter. i feel pretty bad for that letter but was i wrong for what i said? worst of all after all this i still love him and want him back so what do i do?
seems to me that it's a mistake on both of your parts...he may have not responded to you because he knew you two would fight, and you kept contacting him over and over because you were frustrated.
there's no knowing how he feels about you until you contact him...
how long has it been since the breakup? How far do you live from one another? There's a chance that even if you want to get back with him, he won't want to...in that case, gotta let it go. What makes you think the old problems won't resurface again?
you can call him once or twice to see where his mind's at...but if he doesn't seem interested or isn't even picking up your calls and isn't returning your messages...continuing to call him will result in him hating you for it and MAY also earn you the "crazy ex" label...which in turn comes with a complimentary restraining order.
call him up to see where his head's at...if he doesn't seem the least bit interested, then move on. If he doesn't pick up, leave a msg. If he doesn't return your msg within a week or two, call him once more. that's it.
The message is clear, he ain't changing for you, and isn't man enough to say he doesn't care, to your face. Dissapear from his life, and thank him, for freeing you, to be happy at last.
Along with moving on (you've burned this bridge, honey), get a grip on yourself. If a girl ever, ever, EVER spoke or wrote to me in that manner, she would be dead to me.
Your letter was a complete mistake, and a mean one, too. You should excise that from your personality forever. Even if he deserved it, which I would debate that he didn't, you just don't do that to people.
Whatever the message you have to give to someone, especially people you are close to, deliver the message as if your 5 year old daughter was listening to every word. That should make you more civil. Don't be the bad guy by doing something like that again.
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