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My girlfriend of 5years is breaking up with me.

Asked Feb 22, 2009, 07:48 AM — 749 Answers
HI everyone, I have been reading the posts for a week now and they have helped me realize that I'm not alone in my situation...nonetheless here's my story....Please give me advice if you can! Thank you.

Well, my girlfriend of 5 years is having NC with me. I love her and she loves me but we had a big fight last week and now she isn't responding to any of my emails, texts, ...and if she does, then it is a one word response. She has broken up with me in the past but we have always gotten back together. I came crawling back. Pleading, begging for her to recognize how special our love is..and so she did.

But she has a mean streak in her and likes to cut off contact with me when she throws her tantrums...I just done know if this is one of them or if she really broke up with me! That's my problem..and if she did break up, then I want her back because I love her. I admit I have NO self respect anymore and she probably doesn't respect me ..but I don't care...I want what I want and I want her! Please help me. What do you think? And if I have NC with her then, she will break up with me I'm sure and I don't want that....

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Oct 22, 2009, 10:34 AM
Same advice as before, disappear, this time for good. Things aren't going to change the 3rd time around. How many times do you honestly want to ride this ride? Things get hard, that's life. I wonder how she's going to handle real life
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Oct 22, 2009, 11:16 AM
That's what I thought too.....I'm like....honey....its over...YOU broke it off. What the heck? Why are you contacting me? Leave me alone. Its like she's trying to ease her guilt of breaking off with me I think....that if I respond to her, she's like...well he's taking it well so....everythings ok what I did to him....I don't feel like she's still giving me any respect my texting me...oh....she just texted me to ask if if I wanted to go to lunch tomorrow.....?

And...I just got a call right now from her friend saying that she talked to him and now...just wants a BREAK or TIME OFF of being together....she doesn't want to END it completely? I'm thinking...what? Then...she wants me as a BOOTIE CALL?

Question.....if she asks me to be her friend with benefits...do you think I should do that? I mean...it is great sex and all...or is this just childish...? Thanks....
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Oct 22, 2009, 11:19 AM
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Question.....if she asks me to be her friend with benefits...do you think I should do that? I mean...it is great sex and all...or is this just childish...? Thanks....
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Do you seriously not know the answer to this? What do you think would be the smart move? To sit there and be used like a condom or to grow up, leave each other alone and find a more functional situation to be in?

You cannot possibly tell me you have lost your brain in this entire process. Act like a man and move on. That is what a break up is, a fresh start, not a path to meaningless sex.
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#714

Oct 22, 2009, 11:25 AM
Yup, he's still not listening.
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Oct 22, 2009, 11:29 AM
Yeah...the smart move would let it be. No I haven't lost my brain...I was just asking what the heck is she thinking?

What is wrong with this woman?
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Oct 22, 2009, 11:30 AM
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yeah...the smart move would let it be. No I haven't lost my brain...I was just asking what the heck is she thinking?

what is wrong with this woman?
She does what you enable her to do!

Write this down: Ignorance is bliss!

Cut her out of your life and you are better for it!
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crazyoverher Posts: 319, Reputation: 29
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Oct 22, 2009, 11:43 AM
That's fine....I just don't understand what her deal is? Is she Borderline Personality? Plain crazy? I not letting her do anything now....

After all this, I just want to know what her problem is? If anyone out there has been with a woman like this...what did you think was wrong with her?

Immature? What?
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#718

Oct 22, 2009, 11:45 AM
Her problem is not wanting to let you go but not wanting you either and your letting her keep you hanging on!

More fool you if you do
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Oct 22, 2009, 11:45 AM
Again, you aren't getting what we are saying. Take it from me, you can spend YEARS trying to understand the female brain and it will just confuse you more. You will have better luck trying to do Chinese Mathemathics
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Oct 22, 2009, 11:46 AM
Don't worry about her 'deal'-just ignore her and get on with your life.
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