My girlfriend of 5years is breaking up with me.

crazyoverher · Apr 10, 2009, 01:14 PM

Thanks Starlite1!

cvstone · Apr 10, 2009, 01:41 PM

Okay, well I think it all depends on exactly what the fight was about. Have you tired just showing up and talking to her face and face. I know when I was with my ex, and I told him some important news, he quit talking to me and it took me showing up where he couldn't avoid me, to actually talk about it.

tony71 · Apr 10, 2009, 05:25 PM

You know in this world, we have the good ones and the a$$holes who think they can talk down to people, but once they get a taste of their own medicine they shut up.

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Originally Posted by crazyoverher

kctiger....you very perceptive..I never thought about that!

Well, we were going to have a beer in the afternoon just a few hours you know...like at applebees...but I have a new deadline I have to meet for a temp job I got...so I have to do that. I called and told him that if anything, I couldn't do it till this evening....I doubt he has the time to go out then...but you never know.

On another note, I didn't know how much I HATE drama until I got this temp gig.....the people there are ugly in how they talk to me and to people.

And I had to stand up for myself today. I was nervous because I don't like it. And I don't like to be that way you know?

But its over now, at least temporarily and although I feel good because I got it out..I started to think about my ex and how she always used to do that type of thing to me and I really dislike it. Its not that I'm a wimp but why does anyone have to be like that?

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crazyoverher · Apr 10, 2009, 07:18 PM

An update........

Well just made it home and he talked about her. Surprise right? Not.

But guess it was the beer in me but I didn't mind. I actually liked hearing about her. Dam right?

Anyway, he said that when she talks to him, supposedly the frist thing she asks is how I am and if he has heard from me.

He went on to say that she said that she will always love me but that she couldn't get past my "shortcomings" and NO its not my manhood. Fyi. But he went on to ask this::::

He asked me to be the godfather of his kid and that SHE was going to be the godmother! The ceremony is april 26. What's going on here gang?

Dont know what to make of this...

crazyoverher · Apr 10, 2009, 10:54 PM

But I do know this everyone.........while it was really cool to hear about her and how much she loves me...I know I konw...if she did she would be with me.....but it was fun.BUT

When I wound down tonight.....I was very sad. I started thinking about her and all the things we used to do etc....how well...you all know what I'm talking about.

I was taking a shower and I thought , you know before tonight, I was very busy and guys I have to tell you that I didn't think of her for 2 days. I used to always think of her every minute......well now what? Now I'm down. Sh$t.

crazyoverher · Apr 11, 2009, 08:56 AM

Well...everyone....lesson to be learned...hittn my head against a brick wall....all of that and what you said was true. Anyone that has followed my posts....listen to everyone's advice cause its true!

Dam...wish I never went out with this guy...the only thing that it did was to lower my self esteem...and to make me back in a funk...I am once again, depressed because all of my memories come back to haunt me and my decisions and actions and the "what ifs" and especially the: I WOULD do it this way..............if only..

Anyway...it was a bad move.

Now like I said, this guy wants me to be the godfather and my ex is going to be the godmother. I can't say no because how can you say no? I'm really scre##d

All that I have to look forward to is false hope and my ex who will try to be "distant" from me to show me that she has moved on.................

HELP!

talaniman · Apr 11, 2009, 10:51 AM

Oh Buck up guy, you can't let every little thing that comes up depress you, or lower your self esteem.

This has never been about her, or what she does, or him, and what he does. Its always about what you do to handle your own feelings, and the situations that life puts you in.

Now get off your frakkin' pity pot, and go do something good for yourself.

crazyoverher · Apr 11, 2009, 08:26 PM

YES SIR talaniman...tough love. I gotchya.

crazyoverher · Apr 12, 2009, 10:37 AM

Hey talaniman....I'm not sure if I can put other links on this board, I don't want to get banned but here's one that I think makes a lot of sense about me and my situation....everyone...check this out...it might help you!

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crazyoverher · Apr 13, 2009, 07:21 PM

Hi everyone....I was hangin out with some coworkers after work today and I stopped to think about my ex. When I was thinking about her, I thought about something interesting...I felt as if she was a memory and I knew she was hot and all but it didn't bother me that much that I wasn't with her. Anyway just wanted to share my feelings with youall...whether that changes, I don't know, all I know is that at this point in time...I've progressed to there. It was very different for me...I mean it just felt strange.

My girlfriend of 5years is breaking up with me.

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