Is it wrong that i think strippers are disgusting? I think its so degrading. This girl i was seeing knew how i feel about them, and told me she was thinking of doing it. She always told me money meant nothing to her. Then contradicted herself with saying " I can make a grand a night". She asked how i felt about it and i obviously told her how disgusting i think it is and how its selling her body and how degrading it is. We faught about it and now its pretty much over between us . I think of her totally different now because of her even having the idea of stripping. Shes a smart girl and hard working, and wants to get in to a pharmaceutical type job. I told her she can do much better and not have to lose the respect of others over it. I know most guys love it, but i think its gross. Anyone else feel the same? I also know some girls HAVE to do it to make it by in life. But for this girl its different.

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

I can look sexy and modest at the same time. It's all how you perceive what is modest and what isn't. Who said that long hair and dangly earrings wasn't modest?

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

I totally respect you opinion Synnen, I really do.

I just choose to do better for myself. I make $500/week doing one of those jobs I mentioned. It might not be the whooping $1000 per night kind of deal at a strip club, but it feeds me, clothes me, bathes me, transports me, entertains me, pays the bills and I earn the respect I need as a woman in today's society. I could have turned to stripping but decided to take a different path. Women have choices.

I believe it is weak to say that long hair, dangly earrings, short skirts ect is fitted into the 'sex object' type. Who's to say what is sexy and what isn't? It's all in a matter of opinion. And partially it has to do with the media. I don't wear short skirts and barely low cut shirts but I do have the long hair and dangly earrings. I want to look nice, as I see it. That doesn't mean I'm trying to fit into that 'sex object' look. I think every woman (if not most) wants to look nice/sexy, does that mean that they are trying to be that sex object? I find that hard to believe.

Romefalls19

I have seen the default picture on your myspace Beautiful, and I will say you're attractice but you didn't come off as a sex object. You seemed quite reserved with the clothing you chose. Granted this is loosely based on one picture and I could be off base. I don't see skirts, long hair or dangly ear rings as sex objects but more wanting to give off that impression of a classy female. Now granted the skirts that you know, barely cover your assets, now that is coming off as trashy. A friend and I had this discussion a few weeks ago about what is trashy and what is classy.

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

Thank you Romey! You're truely a blessing.

But what is trashy and what is modest? I love to wear big hoops. Does that make me not so modest? Often I am told that I was a very classy and modest girl. Even when I wore the 10 inch hoops (joking! maybe 8 inches!). No I am not the type to wear a 2 inch mini- skirt with my butt showing, tight, low cut shirt and fish net stockings. I am the type to wear jeans, a cute tank top or shirt and high heels (I love my high heels), hair down, and big earrings. I don't consider myself as trashy or a sex object. I like to look good for me. It boosts my confidence by 100.

Romefalls19

EXACTLY! See, that I like in girls. Where they know what is good looking as compared to what is trashy. I don't consider any type of ear rings trashy, I mean unless someone has a ear fetish lol. The only thing I see as trashy is what you describe with the skirt and fish net stockings.. I won't even approach girls who dress like that, I'm not the type to want my girlfriend to wear trashy clothing as it gives off a false impression. At the same time, I won't tell her what to wear or what not to wear, but let her know if she dresses that way I would not wish to pursue a relationship with her.

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

...But then again, I know someone who dresses fairly modestly but is a trashy person (sleeps around, lies, cheats, drugs). So maybe it isn't how we dress all the time but how we act as well.

Romefalls19

This is true, it's all in how someone presents themself. I mean I was out with a friend of mine buying clothes for her daughters, and they are all high skirts and low cut tops and I was like, wow, we are teaching children at a young age that dressing like this is ok?

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

Well with the media of course it's okay! NOT!

Synnen

I know it's not the same thing--being sexy, and being a sex object--but really, there's kind of this fine line.

A short skirt with a modest jacket and conservative heels and tights = classy.

Exchange with ONE of the following: low cut shirt, spike heels, fishnets, and you have trashy.

The things you do and wear to attract the opposite sex are generally so that they will see you as SEXY.

I chose differently too, BB--but it was a very close call for me. If I had had a kid to support, I would have been stripping. I couldn't afford rent AND food, so I was counting on my one meal a day working at McDonald's and my friends to keep me from starving.

As far as the long hair and earrings--I was going with Biblical standards of modesty--a modest woman doesn't flash her hair around for any ol' guy to see...it's covered, or put up, or whatever. Either way, men think long hair is sexy. (Most men I've run across, anyway).

What it comes down to is that we could choose ANY job that an uneducated person can get to be degrading to women, really.
A cook--that's all women are good for! Standing in the kitchen feeding the kids!
a waitress--all women should know how to SERVE their man. (actually, this works for any customer service position)
working for a cleaning service - well, it's practice for what she should do at home!
Daycare- well, that's all that women are good for, is taking care of kids!

Isn't it really all in how you look at it?

Romefalls19

Yea, celebrities have made such a mess of young people's minds these days. I hate to sound like an adult. But it really is a shame to see everything going down the tubes with the media in the past few years