I met this grl a few weeks ago, she was or still is interested in me... We have been on about 4 dates, I put it on her to call me, she did, I'll call too but kept it short... one time I called her from my college and told her to pick me up and she did, I was mazed because I idnt even ask I just told her to, I told tell her to call me she would, I told tell her to come over she would...
Now the 1st kiss attempt: I went to kiss her and I pecked her den she pulled away in a good way I guess, den on IM I said I wasn't sorry she said just ask or tell her the next time... ok w/e... she came over a few days later we watched a movie , I went in for the slow kiss and she kissed me...
Now that same night I was typsy... dam that alcohol... so like a blabber mouth I asked her what do you want right now... she says she knows that she doesn't want a relationship right now... yea red flag... but that her mind might change, she doesn't know the future, I told her I'm not here to play games wit her and she says she doesn't know that yet, she doesn't know the future either... ok...
A few days later I call her to meet up wit me she says she's with her friends... ok...
Later on that day I call her again to come out so I can c her... she's wit her friends, and yea she was because I know them... ok I know when a grl wants to c u she will no matter what...
OK so I gave up... later on that night she calls me... I don't pick up... hellz no... then she calls again... and of course I pick up... she says she wants to c me "can i come up?"... I say well if you want to c me you can't come up wait for me downstairs... ok... we're downstairs in her car... now I go to kiss her(on some quick status not the slow approach I tried the other time) and I have a coffee candy in my mouth, she says no I dun like cofee... ok w/e... end of the night after we laughed talkd w.e.
That same night we agreed on going out next evening to a bar we went to on our second date, she asks if her big sister can come along, I'm like your going to bring your grandma also, she's like lol OK I won't take her, I'm like OK no bring her...
Next day she calls me like at 9pm and tells me if we are still going I tell her yes, then she tells me in spanish so her friend won't understand "is there a problem if i bring my friend also , she's sleeping over, or we can leave it for another day if u want", I'm like sure why not" but listen if u dun want to go let me know"... im already feeling weird...
Like at 10pm she calls me and tells me her sister isn't going anymore, basically she says she can't go either... ok now I feel stupid... I say w/e call me later(with a little attitude), she's like wait are you mad at me, I dun want you to be mad... I'm like naw call me later... she says OK...
NOW this was on wed, today's is Friday , no call yet, no IM(which is the way we met)... what do I do... im holding back on calling or IM'ing, I'm even leaving away messages like "at the movies.." or something like that so she knows I'm out on other stuff or dates...
What should I do if she calls, or IMs me, don't pick up? Call after she calls? How many times after she calls?
I like this girl, so I dun want to brush her away with me being needy and calling her even though she said she was going to call me and hasn't , and I dun want to brush her away by not calling and making her tink I dun care( she recently about a month got out of a relationship which she got played in, now she assures me she def. does not want to go back with the guy... hard to believe.. lol)..

What to do huh?

Lot o drama.

I think its more headache than fun.

I wouldn't put up with the changing stories. Yeah... things can change sometimes. Yeah, both sides want to be in control.

At this point you just need to decide how much work you are willing to do for someone who seems to be playing with you some.

If you think she's worth it, leave a message. Or give it another week or two. What's another week? Not like you are ruining your life, right? You can probably try another time or two and not be a fool.

But after that, if its just the same old thing, id tell her to call you when she's interested in having fun and not playing games.

Be direct my friend. Say, "Hey, what's with the changing plans bs? Do you want to hang out or not? I'm a busy guy and I don't like to have my schedule screwed around with. You have to be straight with me or I'm going to find other things to do."

Don't keep folding like Sam Farha against Chris Moneymaker... Have some balls about this. Show her you don't need her.

Since you care about this girl, let her do her own thing for a while. Be her friend, but nothing more. She's coming off an ugly breakup, and it will take her a while to be comfortable again. Right at this moment, she's somewhere between Relapse Mode (going back to the guy) and Rebound Mode (making impulsive decisions to try and forget the last relationship), and you don't want to get involved with a girl in either of those places.

Put a bit of distance between you, and once she's gotten her head on straight again, then you can try to get something started.

Wow, let me just start by saying that your post was very hard to read. Too much chatspeak and not enough of the right kind of punctuation, so it was kind of hart to figure this out.

Now with that said, I will put my 2 cents in for what it's worth.

Do you think it is healthy in a relationship to tell people what to do? She may feel that you are trying to control her.

Did you really tell her you were not sorry or was that a typo and you told her you were sorry? Um, if you weren't sorry, you should have been. Many women like to be asked before they are kissed, it is actually flattering to a woman. So keep that in mind next time.

Oops again. Yup, damn the booze, it makes people do stupid things. Did you really tell her you are not here to play games? This early on? Hmm, rushing things a bit aren't we?:rolleyes:

Whoa, slow down, you are contacting WAY too much!!

DUDE!! Did you really try to kiss her with STUFF in your mouth? Always get rid of what is in your mouth before you try and kiss a girl. Really that is just gross!!

Please don't tell me you ACTUALLY said that! :eek: She should have replied, are you going to bring some manners with you?

After the way you treated her so far, that does not surprise me.

What is going on in your head man!! You only knew her for a couple of weeks and treat her like this already?

Are you really surprised?

Do you really? It doesn't sound like it so far, at least you don't treat her like you like her.

Leave her alone. You need to work on your manners before you try any of this with anyone else.