my girl developed feeling for someone else! what should ido.

alexbeltre · Oct 18, 2009, 09:50 PM

there is the most beautiful girl in this planet. i love her so passionally that i will die for her. i play baseball and i go to the same school she goes to. one thing happened ... i dont have as much time as i used to have to spend with her. becasue the mentioned reasons. now she started developing feelings for a different guy which is a "friend" she supposedly met in one of her classes. i love her so much that i will even kill my self ... i have try so hard for more than 3 days to see what i did wrong she replies to me that she loves me. that she loves me and will never forget about me. but she is still talkin to this guy and i dont know what to do....... i dont want to lose her .... should i do something to the guy.... what should i doo please .... help me .... i will die if i dont get help quick.........

Reactor · Oct 30, 2009, 08:22 PM

Exactly. This is not love, this is obsession. I was guilty of it, most are.

Remember though, LESS IS MORE. The less you do, the more it speaks.

...and hang out with more male friends dammit.

Gemini54 · Oct 30, 2009, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

You are slowly but surely becoming the boyfriend every girl fears, the stalker, the desperate pathetic guy that won't take "go away" for an answer.

You want her back but you're doing everything in your power to drive her away.

You say that you want her back in your life, that you love her so much. What about her? She has wants too, and she doesn't want you.

Back off, go to no contact. If she comes back then you can try again, if she doesn't then you'll eventually find someone else to love.

After reading all your posts I have to say, this isn't love, this is obsession and it's getting out of hand.

You need to get some help.

I was desperately resisting the use of the word 'stalker' (because I know I can be too blunt sometimes) but you said it and now I feel sweet relief!

Yep. He's trying to steal her oxygen.

Altenweg · Oct 30, 2009, 08:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Gemini54

I was desperately resisting the use of the word 'stalker' (because I know I can be too blunt sometimes) but you said it and now I feel sweet relief!

Yep. He's trying to steal her oxygen.

Gemini, I'm blunt to a fault. It pops in my head and out of my mouth or on the keyboard, then post, post, post.

He is a stalker, in every sense of the word. It's only a matter of time before the girl realizes that the only way to get the time she's asking for is to get a restraining order.

kmj0317 · Oct 31, 2009, 02:33 AM

you'll havent been together that long for you to say you would die and do whatever it takes. You guys need some type of separation so that you all can come together and have a conversation. She's probably feeling neglected been used to you around all the time. because you are so busy theres no time for her. so think about what are your priorities.

alexbeltre · Oct 31, 2009, 06:21 AM

I like this i have come to the conclusion that. I love her a lot but i should let her live her life for now who knows she finds out that. She made a mostake. I will stay in my school and baseball work to fullfil my dreams as a person she means a lot to me but she does not think mature enought to be with me. She is right now so confused because she has lpst the love for me. I love her but she has humiliated me. I will forgive her whenever she comes back but i have to accept that she is dating another guy even if it hurts me. It showed me that. She dint value what we had once. Thank u everyone. For supporting me. Im feeling much stronger.

amicon · Oct 31, 2009, 07:00 AM

Good luck with your healing from this. Stay strong and have a great life.