Fr. Chuch,
I'm 31 and she's 20 and a college girl. she told me age is no prob cos the new man is around my age and even a year or two older. Thanks for your wonderful advice. It has really helped me to forget abt her temporary. She even called me last night but I didn't pick it. Before your advice, I'd have immediately picked her call or call her back.

jeffatl

Congratz bud. It is hard, I know. I was with my ex for 5 years, 2 months after we split BAM engaged!!! It gets better, trust me. that was about 5 months ago, and its been nothing but smooth sailing. Just keep your head up and dont do anything foolish like jump into another relationship as well. take some time for you, and HAVE SOME FUN! Dont talk to her for at least a month. Good luck on "the process". If I made it, so can you.

Chery

Since you posted this in two different places, I intend on answering to this one.

Sorry about your dilema, but you belong to a club of millions, so you're not alone.

Life does not always show you it's best side in a relationship, but it helps you learn from it and gives you the opportunity to grow stronger. Take advantage of this by just putting it in your 'experience drawer' and go on with your life - stay away from her as she is not certain of what she wants either. You need and deserve someone who will grow with you and respect you for the person you are and one who will not play games.

Take a break, get to learn new people, and get over the pain of this loss. It might take a while, but believe me, it will pass and you will find the right person to share your future with and she's NOT it.

Good luck, and keep us posted.





Life it too short to waste the energy to try and understand what is going on in her mind, and you need to collect yourself and start with someone new. All the best!

fredg

HI,
At 20 yrs old and a college girl, she probably doesn't know who or what she wants right now. Normally, it will be another 2 yrs before she graduates, and starts looking for a job.
Give her some time, and maybe it will work out later. Don't call her or communicate with her for a month or two, see what developes, if anything. I do wish you the best.