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Hey, You may remember me from the 'he loves me but is not in love with me' discussion.
Well, my ex had mentioned to me about getting my stuff back, as I said before it would be better if I was there, I asked why he said I don't know it just would. I suggested a Friday night, he said he couldn't do it and he would get back to me.
He didn't get back to me, so I suggested another Friday night, he said he would leave it until Monday or Tuesday of this week, as he is working long hours the rest of the week on a trip. So, I waited for him to get back to me yesterday and he didn't, and today and he didn't. So I text him and said 'r u still ok for 2nite?' he text back and said sorry he meant to phone but he is really busy and can't make it, will do it after he gets back from a work trip - so probably next week or after then.
What should I do here, just wait for him to eventually make a date and time?, as I can't be bothered chasing it up, plus I don't really need the stuff at the moment anyway, there is nothing that I need asap anyway.
Is he playing a game here? I genuinely know what his work is like that, as we work in the same type of business and that happens all the time practically every day. Surely he wouldn't just forget he was supposed to be coming down? or maybe he did?!
I shouldn't be re-arranging my week around him and then he doesn't bring the stuff down.
schedules changes are one thing. not calling you is another.
he needs to be an adult and do what is right.
i wouldnt put up with it for long, unless you genuinely think this work is keeping him that preoccupied. even then, so what. he cut the strings, he needs to be an adult and let you move on instead of these games.
When he's at home show up with the police ,get your stuff and go!!How important is this stuff anyway is it something you can just leave and forget about or can be replaced witout a lot of hassle. There is also small claims court if you have to but you had better have proof of what he is withholding. You Don't think he's holding this stuff hostage do you.
It may be he is busy, but it sounds like he wants to keep you hanging. Next time he sets up a time, say you are busy, don't be so eager and at his beck and call. Say you are busy, and you will get back to him.
Are you guys in good terms? There's probably nothing to panic about. He's probably just busy. He may have other priorities sad to know that it might involve another girl, it's just an assumption. I wouldn't think he would do you a favor of bringing the stuff down. My last bf was like that he was busy and I totally respect that. You just have to accommodate him since it's all about your stuff on his place. He doesn't have the obligation to take it to you but out of his kindness and courtesy he could drop it off. Which he refuses to do so. But I'm sensing that you would bring up getting back with him once you are present with him. That's not gonna work or I could be wrong. If that's the case, I think he's just trying to move on. You need to respect that. Just tell him that you only need your stuff at his earliest convenience. End of story.
I agree with Tal cause you don't have time for his silly games. Ask the police to escort you since it almost seems that he doesn't want you there alone, and get your stuff and go. You don't owe him any explanations since he can't be bothered in giving you a courtesy call.
Geez - why do you want to get the police involved for a blow dryer, a few old DVD's and a half a bag of Cheetos? If it's stuff you can live without, forget it. Do you really want a scene from COPS to be your last memory of that relationship? Besides - all that stuff you can live without would only serve to remind you of what you probably want to forget.... Move on - buy new stuff.
you really think shes fighting for the teddy bear he won her and the shirt of his she liked???
really?
thats whats keeping her frustrated?
**edited in** look, we can all agree that her razor and the nightie she left at his place could be walked away from. doesnt matter. her choice. she wants her things. its a courtesy. and she doesnt owe it to him to make it easier on him. will she be able to walk away sooner once its in her hands or she gives up? sure. i think the police is a bit extreme, but if hes going to be a jerk, she has some rights. her stuff. we dont need an inventory list do determine if shes being reasonable. her prerogative. **
I think more information is needed, what kind of "stuff" are you needing??? Are you living w/o furniture, clothing, memorabilia? If it is just "nothings" leave them for him.
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