hey everyone. i just wanted to put my situation out there and see what advice i could get. me and my girlfriend have been seeing eachother for about a year now, exclusively for the past 7 months. we love each other but lately things have been getting boring. we both go to school full time and both work a couple days a week. even though were both busy we still find time for eachother and see eachother probably like 4 times a week. but im going to be honest, its starting to get boring. example... theres usualy a certain night of the week i'll go visit her a school and stay over and at first it was i guess cute or whatever but lately ive been thinking why do i go? she is very needy and wants to see me all the time. i've told her that its not possible cause were both so busy. and its a struggle to see her as much as i do. and although this may seem selfish, sometimes i feel like im putting more into the relationship than im getting out of it.

i dont want to break up with her at all and we both love eachother. but like i said it is getting boring for me and i can tell she probably feels the same way. as far as i know she doesnt want to break up either. we're both in our early 20's and i dont over contact her (usualy one of us will text the other in the morning sayin have a good day and all that stuff, maybe sometimes during the day, and we'll talk at night before we go to sleep). and for those of you that know me i was getting over a bad breakup before me and the current gf got together so i had problems letting my guard down which has been an issue for us, but lately i've been getting better. anyway i just wanted to get some thoughts on the situation and maybe get some advice from people who've felt like this before. thanks

talaniman

In going back thru your posts and you have a lot of them I notice a month of healing between g/f's, so at first I thought rebound. Getting into a relationship before you were ready. Now that you've gotten over the ex some what, you find out that the new g/f is boring even after the rocky road you've been thru with her. That break you should have taken before, maybe you need it now. Let me throw something else at you, Boring people are usually BORED. Could it be you need a little more creative thoughts to spice up your life and relationship to get out of this rut your in????Think about it.

lost??

i come here for advice and you call me boring...great thanks. haha just kidding i know what you mean and i know the whole boring and routine thing is just as much my fault as it is hers. i can see ive been lacking in the creative department and i know i have to work on that. just to clear things up, i started seeing her 3 months after my ex and youre right it did start off as a rebound for me, and thats why i waited so long to officially get together...i didnt want a girlfriend. over time though it became more than that to me and i really did fall for her. i guess i just gotta try a little bit harder on the relationship to make things better for the both of us.

talaniman

I do like your attitude as you sound much calmer than you did on your posts last year. The good news is being creative is FUN. All you have to do is RELAX and be willing to do things you normaly don't do. Check both your schedules and see what you can do.