Getting over it! Just one issue!

emopunk7 · #1 May 17, 2007, 07:21 AM

I seem to wake up every morning with a heartache. I dream about the person almost every night. From 5 o clock and on I do fine but morning and work is terrifying! Also, I am talking to a few girls but I feel guilty because I feel like I'm doing something wrong and it doesnt feel the way it did with my ex. It's been a month and a half. I had tickets I got her to make her dreams come true and put her on a plane to P.R., but now I asked my cousin to come with me. That's okay, but I'm still missing her even though I know I'm better off and she didn't respect me at all. I just miss the good times. Actually I conacted her 3 days ago and she was really mean to me and hung up on me again...So it felt good to be reminded of how lucky i am to be without her, but now three days later, i'm forgetting how mean she is and she's becoming an angel again in my head and i'm missing her and when she was nice to me in the first few months. What's going on? Also, I'm talking to girls but I don't want a girl to take the pain away, because if they leave, the pain will return. I want a different method i guess...What's going on with me? And why am i only okay when i get home? Or outside?

HurtingALot · May 17, 2007, 07:43 AM

Epo....I am right there with you. Your relationship and mine sound very similar. I too, find that sometimes are easier than others....I sleep ok at night, but wake up to that awful hollow, heartache feeling at 5am every day. I believe that this will lessen in time. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger....I read on someone's tag here that "If God brings you to it, He will get you through it." So true....I am trying to rely on my faith and know that everything happens for a reason....and what is meant to be will be, No Matter What. I am slowly realizing that my realtionship really was not good for me. I know I'll fully get there one day...and so will you. Just remember when the bad times come, just Breathe. It will pass....it always does. Good Luck....I'm with ya!! We'll get through this!!!

crJgirl · May 17, 2007, 07:55 AM

i agree with hurting alot..and it's true..God will only give as much as you can handle..you need to remember the times she was mean to you and time thes she disrespected you, because quite frankly you do NOT deserve that. I mean relationships have their problems...but disrepsect is def. not an option..time will def. heal your problem..stay busy..try to meet new girls because you can --dont worry about them taking your pain or them hurting you..take a risk! live! it will all work out for you in time

p.s. -- i know girls and guys are equally as crazy

emopunk7 · May 17, 2007, 08:29 AM

OMG! You both just made me cry so much. Especially when you said we'll get through this. Some people think that it's just another problem and that it's a phase, but nobody really understands the power this has. It can ruin or lives badly. Just know that you two understand so well and let me know that you are with me makes me feel so much better. I can't stop crying. I can't believe it's over, and this whole process is new to me since i'm only 22. Life is crazy at times. I guess this is part of growing up. I think I still have this 5% chance of taking her back, because there is still love and it's lessened because of this site. I'm sure a little more time and the 5% will be gone. And I can't wait, so that I can be happy and show that I don't need them. After I gave my trust, my everything, and did everything possible for them and showed how much I love them, and then they throw it away. I can't wait till I get over this. I will be so happy! I am going to church this Sunday. Today I am going to get a haircut and then do some exercises and then watch the movie closer. I hope this will make me feel better. But I think the two of you helped the most. Thank you so much. I stopped crying now...lol I just feel happy now. I wish I could give you two a piece of cake!

HurtingALot · May 17, 2007, 08:33 AM

Epo...I am glad you are feeling good right now. Try to keep these thoughts around for the next time you're getting down. (That's what I try to do....Lord knows the bad feelings come back again and again....) I just keep trying to remember how bad this relationship was for me....everyone saw it but me. I made every excuse for it...but I often felt very dis-satisfied and wondered "What the hell am I doing??" If they think they can find happiness elsewhere....GOOD LUCK!! I am better than all of that crap!!

crJgirl · May 17, 2007, 08:39 AM

your so welcome...live your life how YOU want to..and never apologize for who you are...words i live by ...and i'm only 20

emopunk7 · May 17, 2007, 08:43 AM

Are you both male or female?

crJgirl · May 17, 2007, 08:45 AM

female

HurtingALot · May 17, 2007, 09:06 AM

I'm a girl too!!

emopunk7 · May 17, 2007, 10:06 AM

well im going to be your online bf from now on...Lets see how this goes...lol Maybe it can keep our mind off other things.



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