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Why do some women only want to have sex when they are drunk? If this is the only time a woman wants to have sex with you when she is in this condition, is this a good sign that your relationship is over?
Alcohol is an intensifier of whatever mood you are in. I wouldn't say that this means the relationship is over, I would just say it is time to try new things as maybe this woman is bored. Not that this justifies her actions, but if you would like her to be pleased sober-try something different other than the regular routine.
This is just a suggestion-I don't know if this is just a general question, or if you are currently in a relationship in which this is happening, so I could be WAY off. If it IS a relationship thing, by no means is it your fault. There is definitely something psychologically wrong here, especially if she has to be drunk EVERY Single time you do it. But being a woman, and have definitely been in "the mood" while being intoxicated a time or two, I feel that I can safely share my opinion.
Dear Depressed: Thank you for the response. It is very helpful. Just what I was hoping to read. I am not saying she has to be totally drunk just quite high and it is EVERY time we do it. We ONLY do it when she is in this condition. This is what disturbs me. She is definetly not bored and we have tried new things and its never ever a routine. The last time we were in a canoe in the middle of a lake! I agree that there is definitely something psychologically wrong here but I can't decide if it' s worth walking away from the relationship over. I really love and care for this person.
Have you spoken with her about this - I mean deeply? Told wha tbothers you? You must do this. You must before walking away.
So many peopel WALK away fro mrelationship without REALLY talking - telling their partner what really bothers them. Most peopel don't even know they are doing certain things. If they love you they will work on it.
Judgeing by what you've posted in your other threads, the best thing to take from this is that people do things against their better judgement when they're drunk, that they wouldn't otherwise do. They become uninhibited, and could do things they're not otherwise confident enough to do - but the "friends with benefits" thing would just lead me to think that in this case thoughtless drunken sex is just thoughtless drunken sex.
"The last time we were in a canoe in the middle of a lake!"-That is very romantic/fun. But was she DRUNK then?
Definitely should talk to her, and let her know it is hurting her. She may have told you/may think that this is the only way for her to get off, but she is truly missing out on the better orgasm-when she is sober. Try to work it out before walking away. And remember, even if you have a good talk, it will still take some time and patience. Best of luck to you and her.
I think this guy is a little too soft wit hher and she just walks all over him. He isn't man enough to put her in her place. Too agreeable about everything - for sure.
I think this guy is a little too soft with her and she just walks all over him. He isn't man enough to put her in her place. Too agreeable about everything - for sure.
Dear Wildcat: You are correct in thinking/stating that I am a little too soft with her. But you are incorrect in your statement "he isn't man enough to put her in her place." And here is why...I don't believe anyone has the right to put anyone in their place for any reason whatsoever. Especially in a relationship. This never fixes anything. I don't want a relationship where dominant male egos are required. I respect her too much for that type of relationship.
Isn't this the problem with the world today? First it's one person putting another in their place and it ends with one nation putting another nation in their place.
I was actually successful in sustaining a sober relationship (sexual and emotional) for 5 months with her. But all that growth changed back into previous behavior patterns. My "soft" approach is mainly due to her emotional issues as another poster has suggested. I do appreciate your insightful responses.
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