Friend needs help with relationship prob.

texas_cowgirl3031 · #1 Feb 16, 2005, 05:51 PM

ok heres the deal,

my guy friend just called me to ask me for help, but Im not sure what i shoudl say (i told him id call him back later). He had an "affair" with this girl and they went ALL THE WAY. Also she found out that he had a girlfriend (who has NO IDEA whats been goin on) and says that she doesnt care. He has no idea what to do. Should he keep it quiet? Tell his girlfriend? End it with his "mistress" or still do it? Act like it never happened?? or what?? I dont want to be a bad friend and tell him the wrong answer.

Thanx for any and all advice.

justjamestx · Feb 16, 2005, 08:39 PM

Sound like you friend is enjoy his cake and eating too.. Only one problem is that someone is sure to get hurt. You friend should tell his girlfriend,, if it is new "fling" that he so desires, then why only continue to hurt his girlfriend. Put yourself in his girlfriends shoes,, then what advise would you give this guy?? And then why should the advice be any different because its not you. I believe honesty is the best answer. Good luck on whatever you decide to tell him.

Wildcat21 · Feb 17, 2005, 08:44 AM

First of all - the guy is a jerk - he needs to tell her. His girlfriend needs to end the relationship. Obviously he doesn't care at all for his girl friend anyway if he did that to her. It's called trust and has none.

texas_cowgirl3031 · Feb 17, 2005, 06:03 PM

Thanx for all yalls help. i told him that he needs to tell her, and that she deserves to hear it from him. But he doesnt know how to tell her. Any advice?

Wildcat21 · Feb 17, 2005, 06:37 PM

He needs to take tell her at her home. And then he has to leave. She is going to need a good friend around because will be devastated. She wil lgrieve for a long time.

louise72 · Sep 17, 2007, 05:23 PM

He needs to figure out who he wants to be with and talk to his girlfriend then tell her the truth about that he did it, his total intention and he needs to know what he wants from his girlfriend and then needs to end it with the mistress or be with the mistress. Good Luck

angelic_voice · Sep 22, 2007, 11:20 AM

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Originally Posted by texas_cowgirl3031

ok heres the deal,

my guy friend just called me to ask me for help, but Im not sure what i shoudl say (i told him id call him back later). He had an "affair" with this girl and they went ALL THE WAY. Also she found out that he had a girlfriend (who has NO IDEA whats been goin on) and says that she doesnt care. He has no idea what to do. Should he keep it quiet? Tell his girlfriend? End it with his "mistress" or still do it? Act like it never happened?? or what?? I dont want to be a bad friend and tell him the wrong answer.

Thanx for any and all advice.

if he really loves the girl he's with, then he shouldnt have any more affairs,and it's probably gonna put a guilt trip on him whenever he does something with his girlfriend. so he should probably tell her about it, but in a mature manner, just let her know he messed up, and wasnt thinking about hurting her.and it really hurts him going on like nothing happened and he thinks she had a right to know. but he has to understand that this more than likely will hurt her.i dont know how she'll handle it because people handle different situations in different ways.but remember everything happens for a reason, and God wont let you go through anything you cant handle, and that wont make you a better person

s_cianci · Sep 22, 2007, 12:13 PM

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