i am really in a tough situation.

i used to go to school with this girl and we were nothing more than acquantances.. not even friends.. high school came around and i grew a little closer into a friend.

shes the type of girl thats not a drinker and someone who you would want to keep. I took her to homecoming last year and i think she had a good time. but this year, my best friends all have girlfriends and when we go out im in a really akward position cuz my friends are all with a girl and im just "friends" with some.

its really hard to get a hold of this girl, sometimes she doesn't get texts and shes never online, i hope shes not ignoring me but thing is i'm really starting to love her mroe and more everyday, even though i dont see her.

i want to ask her out but i dont want to ruin myh relatinoship with her and her parents (cuz they like me too). i dont know what to do, should i call her and tell her my felings or try and plan a day (which is impossible cuz she's always so busy) and then ask her if she likes anyone.

she was over a few days ago and someone said we were a cute couple, even though we werent, and she said we were like brothers and i dont know what way to take that, could this ever work out?

thanks

beautifuldiva

hmmm ok if she hasnt talked to you and is "hard to get a hold of" and u have the feeling she's ignoring you, than she might just be... If she was thinking about you as much as you were thinking about her than she would prolly try to get in touch with you or be a lil more "available". However she could like you but have the same questions about it or be just as confused about what to do as you are.

Anyway, I say you will never know if you dont talk to her about it. You dont have to make it awkward... If someone mistook yall for a couple rather then friends or something like that its obvious that you are close... and if you are good friends a talk like that shouldnt end it. (the friendship that is) regaurdless of the out come.

As for the question of could it work out.. I dont think anyone here could anser that for you.. we do not know you personally nor her personally or how yall interact with eachother... the only person who could anwer that for you is her.

talaniman

The fact that she goes out is a good sign so forget what your friends say and don't give them a second thought since you should be focused on getting this female to the next level with you. Be honest and make sure she has a great time, no need to push.

basketb23

no she doesn't come with us, yesterday i invited her and she was busy, i understand that. my friends dont' say anything though. they're great they're trying to get me get a girlfriend cuz .. there's 3 of us and we're inseperable. problem is we're like 2 years apart in age (im 2 years younger than other 2) 16, 18,19. but i'm gnna continue to invite her whenever we all hang out, and even without that. problem is trying to fin da time when shes not busy with school/dance/community service

beautifuldiva

hmmm just a thought but maybe since she is so busy... it could be that she has a lot on her plate to have time for a bf right now... but maybe to show her you're interested in more then just friends you could take an interest in her activities... like u say she dances.. does she perform? You could see one sometime... But i totally agree with Talaniman dont push things

basketb23

last year she did a gymnastic thing in an opera and her dad invited only my family and one other, so i went to see it and she saw i was there, so she knows i care and i'm cool w/ all she does. it's almost a perfect situatino. her dad likes me which is usually the problem. only problem with the whole situatino is the accesibility and friendship barrier

beautifuldiva

haha yes u got thru the toughest barrier! lol But that is good on your part that you did that. And i say you are on the right track.. just keep doin what ur doin and when the time is right and slip in "the convo" lol just sounds like you are in the beginning of something.. all relationships have to start out this way if you think about it... soon you will break down that friendship barrier but you have to do it by talking to her

basketb23

what would you say is the best way to do this? since shes hard to get a hold of and some texts dont go through. should i call her or try and plan a day to go hang out and bring up if she likes anyone.. what would you guys say is the best way to handle this part?

thx

beautifuldiva

Do both. Call her and talk a bit then plan with her a day for yall to hang out and yall could take it from there... though im not really sure the asking if she likes "anyone" will be a great idea.... it might be better just to be straight forward about it and not beat around the bush... It doesnt have to be wierd.. just start out by saying that u love hanging out with her and wish you could do it more often.. tell her you like her. Just enough so that she is clear that you are interested.. you dont have to decide to be a couple yet... you're just getting the ball rolling here.

basketb23

do relationships like this (family friends) usually work out from ur experience? sorry for all the questions just that i grew a love for her so fast it was ridiculous. when she couldn't come with us last nigth i felt like not even going. and i couldn't sleep last nigh ttil today cuz i kept having a dream of asking her out like 50 times and she kept saying no.. but it was a different scenario each time.. got irritating after a while