i am really in a tough situation.

i used to go to school with this girl and we were nothing more than acquantances.. not even friends.. high school came around and i grew a little closer into a friend.

shes the type of girl thats not a drinker and someone who you would want to keep. I took her to homecoming last year and i think she had a good time. but this year, my best friends all have girlfriends and when we go out im in a really akward position cuz my friends are all with a girl and im just "friends" with some.

its really hard to get a hold of this girl, sometimes she doesn't get texts and shes never online, i hope shes not ignoring me but thing is i'm really starting to love her mroe and more everyday, even though i dont see her.

i want to ask her out but i dont want to ruin myh relatinoship with her and her parents (cuz they like me too). i dont know what to do, should i call her and tell her my felings or try and plan a day (which is impossible cuz she's always so busy) and then ask her if she likes anyone.

she was over a few days ago and someone said we were a cute couple, even though we werent, and she said we were like brothers and i dont know what way to take that, could this ever work out?

thanks

beautifuldiva

Umm personally i think the status of the person be it family friend, school friend, co worker, casual friend, ect. really has little to do with the outcome of a relationship... however the bf i have right now was a family friend and today is our seven month anniversary! if that helps... and awe im sorry you are stressin so much! lol but hey u still have her... its not like ur losin her or shes goin anywhere.... just slow down, talk to her about it, and breath... lol Take it easy and keep it casual and fun! Sounds like you're doing great already

basketb23

alright coolz, congratz on 7 months and thx for all your help

beautifuldiva

Anytime, thanks, and good luck to you!

styler1972

yeah I agree with diva!! go for it!!

basketb23

man, i get my hopes all up reading this, and then i go bak to reality and see that i sent her 2 texts today and no responce saying how like it would've been cool if u came last night. i wanna talk to her but dunno if i should call right now, cuz that would be like im too desparate .. 2 texts and a call within a day w/ no responce. especially if she doens't pick up.. 2 texts and a missed call.. woulda kinda bad... my brain is tleling me to wait later in the week but my heart is telling me to get ahold of her

beautifuldiva

Alright... I would wait a little while.. see if she responds. BUT the next time you try to get a hold of her.... MAKE IT A CALL! dont text her and if she doesnt answer leave a message... that way u know she got the call and the message and the ball is in her court. You want this girl to know that ur into her but you are right u do not want to look desperate. And im sorry i dont mean for you to be getting your hopes up! Which is a good point you bring up yourself actually... there is a chance that she might not see anything between yall.. but all you can do is let her know how you feel and accept whatever her response is to that

Gillion

It is not your heart. It is your craving.

My son resist your urge and give HER the chance to return your call.

If you don't you may run the risk of having her think of you as a scary, possessive, deparate, needy guy.

This might very well push her away.

No reponse is not a signal to try harder. It means ... no reponse.

Do not take it personally.

So make sure your ego is not feeling bruised or rejected.

I do not recommend you leaving a message on her machine or voicemail.

Your voice may convey the wrong impression.

Why ?

In you current state of affectation if you call her and instead the machine answers, you will be disapointed and that will show up in your voice. You do not want to leave a message with a disapointed sounding voice since you may just sound pathetic and say stupid things.

I would say, wait until you get a response from her or better yet wait until you get a chance to see her face to face then invite her out for coffe.

Otherwise ... keep occupied and do not think of her so much.

basketb23

i agree with you gilliion i don't think i would have left a message 1. i'm not a type of voice mail person, when i verbally say something i usually feel more comfortable when their is a responce 2. for the exact resason you mentioned of having a voice thats down and disappointed. ya i dont plan on calling her again tonight .. i wll most likely call or try and see her face to face during the week to plan something over the weekend

s_cianci

It's very hard to progress from "friend" to something romantic. If she truly sees you as a "brother" then she's not going to want to date her "brother." You could probably have her accompany you when you go out with your other friends who have girlfriends to make things a little less awkward for you. I wouldn't pour my heart out to her. You could maybe try sending out little signals and see how she responds ; hand on shoulder, hold her hand, lean in a little closer, slow dance with her when out with your friends. It's possible that something may blossom. Don't get your hopes up but it could be worth a try. Make sure to be patient and give things lots of time.

s_cianci

Since she evidently doesn't spend a lot of time online, how about the old-fashioned telephone? If she's not home, someone else can always give her a message that you called.