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the first two dates were good but the third was bad?
hi all,
i am dating a guy whom I have known for about a year but until recently we caught up and he asked me on an official date. We are both very busy with our schedules but we try to at least see each other once a week. He is a wonderful friend but he has a very active social life unlike myself who is dedicated to a busy career. he seems to be bored or maybe not that interested when we go out recently and i do not know why. we are not exclusive since we are on our fourth date. we only kiss on the cheek. help what should I do? or maybe i am being paranoid? is he playing the field or maybe taking it way too slow?? does he not like me? or is he just confused or indecisive about being friends?
communication is key in any sort of relationship. he's the only person who can honestly answer any of those questions. anyone else can only guess. do you want this relationship to go anywhere? if so, you have to talk to him.
be open with him. honest questions like the one's you asked shouldnt get him offended or make him hate you. being open about things is important and shows that you are serious, concerned, and honest. it also shows that you trust him enough to ask him. so dont keep these questions to yourself, ask him!
thanks guys, i appreciate your great input. I really like him and I would like a relationship with him. I am afraid I am pushing him too much too quickly. I mean he says he wants to focus on school as do I and we are both aware of that, so I don't know how to approach him, without being too pushy.
focusing on school is very important. so as long as you two stay on the same page that's good. just be honest with. tell him what you're thinking. find out what he's thinking.
After 4 dates and knowing each other for 1 year, I'm sure you can ask him where he thinks this is headed. It's no fun to move forward if he doesn't feel the same way about you.
Wanting a relationship after 4 dates?? Thats a bit much, and I would wait a lot longer to make such a decision. maybe backing off and being less available would give you both a better perspective, but because he act board, doesn't mean he is.
Maybe its him that doesn't like the slow pace this is going at and wants you to give more or be more upfront. DON"T DO THAT. When dating stops being fun, its time to date someone else, or do something else, not rush into something.
Your not exclusive, so if he is playing the field, he has a right to, and so do you. Your getting fixated on one guy to fast, I think. 4 dates??
i appreciate the good advise, i believe that I will NOT fixate on him, as I have been and maybe be less available and let time take care of it. its just so awkward to act as if nothing has happened when we have been dating. lol i don't know if you guys have experienced that.
I am really not the type of girl that goes around dating many guys at the same time, so I guess you could say that I am a bit inexperienced, lol.
help what should I do? or maybe i am being paranoid? is he playing the field or maybe taking it way too slow?? does he not like me? or is he just confused or indecisive about being friends?
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