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Old Jun 27, 2009, 03:57 PM
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First Fight

I had wrote a post about the first fight that I had with my boyfriend, if you haven't read it this is the situation, I am in Barcelona for two months (returning back to USA, in two weeks), I meet this guy in Madrid (witch is far away from were I am, I was spending the weekend when we meet), we hit perfectly, and in 3 weeks we decided to be boyfriend/girlfriend, I came constantly to Madrid (I have lots of friends over there), he came once to Barcelona. Last time I went to Madrid (a week ago), we had a fight, mainly my cause I acted like a 5 year old, just because he didn't wanted to take me to the airport at 5 am. The thing is that he had an exgirlfriend of 7 years that acted that way, and he has gotten sensible. This week at first we didn't even talk to each other, but on tuesday things started normally again, yesterday he told me he really wants to see me, just to figure out if he still loves me, cause since the fight, he has lost what he felt for me, he tells me he loves me, but not what he felt, that he needs to be near me to figure out if we are going to be together or not. He told me that he doesn't want to make me suffer, that If I want we can end it now and not see each other. What do you think, should I just end everything, or try the chance of seeing each other in person and figure out a bit if he still loves me or not?

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Old Jun 27, 2009, 04:32 PM   #2  
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(returning back to USA, in two weeks),
Why are you bringing so much drama into a holiday fling, that will likely end in two weeks. You should be having fun not drama, Right??

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Gemini54 agrees: Yes, ditch the drama - clearly he wants to!
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Old Jun 27, 2009, 06:08 PM   #3  
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There will always be fights in a relationship. Whether or not you guys make it through or not, thats what defines if you are meant to be with each other or not.
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I don't think that the issue is the fight. I think that the issue is your childish behavior.

It sounds as if you've only been together for 2 months - and now you're going home. Feelings can change easily in the early days of a relationship, so it's not surprising he's being cool with you.

You've had a lovely holiday romance, so why ruin it with tantrums and declarations of undying love? Enjoy the rest of your short time with him, instead of trying to make more of it than what it is.

And, perhaps when you have time, on the flight home, think about why you behave the way you do.

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StNerevar agrees: I agree. Such a short time shouldn't wasted like that. Make amends and have fun
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Old Jun 28, 2009, 01:11 AM   #5  
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I brought a lot of drama in a small fling before and it did not end well. It's not needed and it won't be fun afterwards. So have fun and not drama
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