Attraction isn't a choice - you don't just turn it off. I think the key is that when you are in a relationship and committed to each other, attraction to others doesn't matter. Both will still feel it, but not act on it.
Other end of the spectrum here - I wish my wife had some jealousy, it would make me feel a little more special. Tye woman does not have a green bone in her body.
Me: "Honey I'm going out for beers with some strippers that just came out of prison."
Her: "Have a good time honey, don't drive drunk."
<sigh>
ROFLMAO. That sounds sooo much like my husband and me. Actually when I'm sick of something he's doing, I sometimes tell him to go out to a strip club or get a prostitute. Joking, of course! I really do love him. Maybe your wife is just really secure in her relationship with you. And you don't want someone who's jealous, believe me. My ex was extremely jealous, and it was horrible.
Meanwhile I'm thinking "Am I so hideous that no one else would want me?".
Awww, I'm sure you're not hideous! Actually though, if any man wants to make himself more attractive and get more attention (from my point of view, anyways), all he has to do is cook and clean and do laundry and fix things around the house. I find that hot!
Yeah, its difficult. I dont like the idea of having to lie, no matter how white the lie may be, to her. She is still young... and unfornately, I mentioned that when we were discussing this (big no-no by the way lol).
You are totally right tho about what women find attractive. I know there are plenty of people she runs into that she HAS to find attractive.... I forgot to mention she is a bartender, and I very sexy one at that! She is getting hit on all the time.
Beaker is a cutie! He and Animal are my favorite muppets!
It sucks that you have to keep things from her. I just thinking, it could be that even though she is very hot to YOU, she may not think that about herself. And when she hears you saying someone else is hot, maybe it makes her feel bad, or she feels like you're saying she's NOT attractive or that the other woman is better looking than her. I know when I was younger (errr... I'm an old lady of 26, haha), I didn't like anyone saying that another girl was pretty or gorgeous or whatever, because I took it personally and it made me feel ugly. But luckily I grew out of that.
thats a good point... she gets hit on all the time, all of my friends think she is totally hot, she has a great personality and EVERYONE loves her (really.. its so much that it gets annoying!) so she REALLY is VERY attractive but I dont think she really thinks she is... or if she does, she doenst admit it. I tell her all the time, but she doesnt take compliments that well. maybe she does take it personally like that.... thanks, orange.... you gave me something to think about
NeedKarma, is that your picture? You are NOT hideous at ALL!! You look cute and you can tell your wife I said so, LOLL!!
Thank you, maybe I'll forward this thread to her.
Upon further reflection it seems kinda vain to put my pic up like that, I'll probably change it tonight to something else. (Admin, if you're reading this I mean no disrespect )
I don't think it's vain. I always think of it as brave and/or wanting to show who you really are. I don't do it because I'm paranoid that some freak will be able to track me down!
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