I have been dating my boyfriend for about 7 months now. He lives across the hall form me. He is a professional athlete and have been traveling for 4 months for training. Throughout this time, I have been visiting him and we never lost contact. I could tell that he was happy and so was I. Text messaging everyday, emails, he was very sweet. I promised I would never leave him. His friends would always tell me how happy I made him and that I was the perfect woman for him. I have never met someone that I was so in love with. He really is wonderful. However, He broke up with me in Feb because he said he met the “perfect girl at the wrong time”. I was so confused! I did everything for him. He even admit to it. He said, one day he wants me, one day he doesn’t. But yet always ends up coming back around. So I leave him alone and go NC. He texts me 2 weeks later and says he misses me and wants to try things over again when he comes home, which was last week. We hung out for 2 days and he broke it off again, this time, I didn’t hesitate, cause I truly have no more energy for him. This is so hard for me, because I love him and I don’t know what he is doing….. I need help guys. What is he doing?

duck22

Thats a tough situation to be in but you found a good place for advice. Personally I think you are letting him take advantage of you. I get the impression that he wants to have his cake and eat it too if you know what I mean. I suggest you stop contact with him until he is serious about making a committed relationship with you or you decide to move on to somebody else.

nickshehe

I said it again today, but you should make him work for your affection and love if he returns...
Try and ignore his pleas for a month or so until he figures out what he really wants..Like you said if he's a professional athlete the chances are he's going to be busy all the time and that will distract him a lot from giving you the attention you need...
This situation seems like he's only coming back when theres nothing else to do..It's a difficult situation for you but its something that I think will keep coming up if he is indeed so busy all the time with sports..You have to let him be so he can figure out if he's with you all the way or if he isn't..

talaniman

He is playing you plain, and simple, as he knows how you feel, and uses those feelings to get what he wants, when he wants it. And you let him do it! Over and over again. Stop listening to the words you want to hear, and cut him from your life, and move on to a happier place. Get over those feeling that make you his fool, by cutting all contact with him whatsoever.

supergirl2009

Thanks so much guys .... but its so hard, cause he keeps coming back and says he misses me.... i cant handle it anymore

Unregistered

He just keeps telling how Im the perfect girlfriend and that he misses me when im not around... How if he could settle his life now, he would and then he would be set with me. Its rough, i travelled to see him, i trusted him, i know for sure he didnt do anything, HE LIVES across the hall from me! We are very open with each other and i just wish he could make up his mind and realize what is happening...

Yesterday, i had my realestate guy come pick me up to go look at condos and he saw that i got in the car with the guy.... is he upset? He hasnt contacted me, but i know that he went out last night... argh.

nickshehe

It shouldn't matter if he's upset or not..What's important is your focus on yourself..
You should love yourself enough to not allow anyone use you as a doormat. Someone who truly loves you will not treat you in the manner he is doing..and trust me someone out there will truly love you and treat you a lot better than this guy.
It's not worth it.