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I've been feeling VERY lonely lately. I'm not sure why really though. I hang out with my friends pretty much daily, but I feel like something is missing. I know this is the time where I really DO NOT need to jump into a relationship, but I dont know what to do about it. I just want someone to care about, but have nobody (girl wise). The girl I am interested in IS moving back here this summer, but I am just worried that it might not work out the way I want it to. Any thoughts on why I am feeling this way now? I have only been single for about 6 months (not that bad). I have been on a TON of dates but nothing that sparks interest. Are my standards too high, or am I just in a rut?
Hi!
I went back to:
"Im going to write a book on the stuff that has happened to me......."
Is she the girl who's coming back?
If so, wait and see, and for the moment, don't hang your expectations too high -so as not to be disappointed. I'm not sure you two view your relationship in the same way.
As for not finding anyone yet: your instincts are probably keeping you safe from relationships which are bound to bring you sorrow.
you're probably too deep and sensitive to be flirting around. i'm not say there's something wrong with flirting around, if it suits you.
for some it works, for others it doesn't.
have a good time, go out, meet people.
the more you meet, the more chances you have to meet someone suitable.
even though you might not be the flirting type, it doesn't mean that whoever you date has to be THE ONE. usually it doesn't work that way.
there are very few lucky people for whom it does.
go out, and just enjoy yourself and enjoy the company of your friends.
remember that people, in general, are more attracted to happy faces than to sad people.
especially when they are out and try to have a good time.
good luck!
Millie
Thats just the thing, Im starting to think that I am liking her more than she is liking me in some ways, but then she reels me right back in. Things will be great, and then she gets "odd". We will talk alot for a week or so, and then she goes quiet. Should I just break myself off of this while I can, or just back off and see IF things go different when she comes back? I know now is NOT the time for me to get into anything because I need to me happy with myself 1st. I just dotn want another let down like before. I am FOR SURE a flirt, but only with those that I find interest in, the rest meh. I just feel like Im in a yoyo type situation. I KNOW she likes me in more than a "friend" typ way, but I think she is just cautious because of her past. I think I am just going to back off a tad and let her take it from here. I am just tired of falling flat on my face with crap like this. It takes alot out of me.
well, i think you're getting to the right conclusions all by yourself. i don't know her history, but the point is: wait till she's back, don't put too much hopes in that, so that you won't be hurt again. and like i said in the other thread - she might wish for a different relationship with you than
what you do. in this last input, you seem to be reaching the same conclusion.
good luck, and DO take good care of yourself,
Millie
Hi, Jeff,
One thing is obvious; you aren't happy with this relationship, for whatever reasons.
Get out, as you are doing, and meet others. Eventually you will feel much better, talking with new girls. Give this relationship some time to work itself out. The girl you are thinking about all the time may not be thinking about you that much!
Best of luck.
Jeff, I don't think you need to give up on this gal just yet. If I recall correctly, most of your interaction with her was long distance. It's kinda hard to bond that way, much less gauge how strong your feelings are for her. I know that they say absence makes the heart grow fonder, but sometimes, too much absence and too much distance does a sort of out of sight, out of mind kinda thing. Yeah there's the phone and text messaging/emailing but that's not the same. You may be lonely for a real legitimate relationship. There's nothing like the physical touch of your significant other, face to face dates and stuff like that. The tons of dates you've gone on have probably been with superficial women and that's not very "filling". Keep surrounding yourself with close friends and family. If you have nieces and nephews, take them to the movies or some place fun...
No, your expectations are not too high. You are entitled to certain requirements from the gal you choose to be your girl, especially after the last fiasco!
You're wishing for something that you just don't have in your life right now, the way some people might wish for a beachfront mansion in Florida. That's normal to some extent as long as you don't let it become an obsession and interfere with your daily life. Unfortunately there's little you can do right now to directly change the situation. The good news is that times and circumstances change so that if things aren't the way you want them to be right now there's a good chance that they eventually will be. You need to be patient and keep the faith.
Im pretty good now. I was just in a little bit of a ruff spot because of stress I think. Im not obsessing, just getting aggervated with dates going nowhere. I have been on about 10 dates over the last 5 months, and I just dont like these girls@! LOL! I guess I cant really complain becasue at least I am getting dates. UPDATE: The girl from Cali called me the other day and out of the blue.........."Im moving back home at the end of next month". And suprise, Im not really sure how I feel about it now! LOL, Im an idiot. The whole conversation thing with her is really odd, we dont really talk on the phone much anymore, but say "hi" and "goodnights" on AIM. In a way, I kind of like it this way, keeps me from getting too attached and what not. She has a ton going on right now (family issues, moving, transferring, ect........) I think I am just going to leave her be and play it by ear until she comes home NEXT MONTH! WEIRD! This whole situation is getting crazier my the min! PLUS! I find out this girl from work has a crush on me, shes older than me 32, but VERY pretty. I am a mad man right now until school ends in 2 weeks (thank God!) I am getting into nothing until I am SURE I am ready though. Thanks guys!
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