Hey, thank you all for reading my posts. I am in need of some serious advice to get me out of my rut. Sometimes I do not even want to get out of bed, but I find myself learning to cope with it a little easier. Anyway, her and I were together for 3 years. We were having problems this last summer, and at the end of the summer she decided that she could not be in the relationship anymore, and said it was over. I was hurt, but did not want to show it. As a result, when she asked to meet I told her that I agree with her decision and told her it was for the best. I do not think she wanted to hear that, so she started crying. For about 4 weeks after that I would receive a text message from her here and there. Keep in mind that I never reached out to her, she was the one reaching out to me.

Anyway, it has been two months since we had any contact. In that time, I met another girl who is very pretty and very smart, but still have the ex girlfriend in my mind all the time. As a result, I decided to reach out to the ex girlfriend last week. I had sent her a text message asking how she was doing. She responded telling me she is doing good, and very busy with work. I asked if she was free to talk...she said she wasnt, but maybe the following day. I said ok. The following day came and went, and did not hear a thing. Last night, I decided to give her a call as a last attempt to reach out to her. I left a voicemail asking how she was and wishing her a Happy Thanksgiving, and asking if she would like to get together for a cup of coffee. She never returned my call.

Aside from all this, I feel the best thing is to just leave it alone, but am very upset over it. Please help with some good advice.

TOTALREASON

hey bro i feel 4 ya. it can be devistating.
my saying is this-----

" everything will be O.K. in the end, because if its not o.k. yet, its not the end" things will continue. time heals all things..... but they never say how much time, thats the problem. a part of you dies when this happens. you need to surround yourself with good friends, and talk to new girls, i know you dont want a different girl, but doing this will grow a new spot in your "heart" thatr will help patch the part that "died" youll never fully be able to fix the part that dies, but you can patch up over it,
hey good job with the school thing too man!!!! way to go!!! keep in mind all that cash your gonna rake in withthat degree!!! any girl would want a sucsessful guy like you. keep your head up bro. keep pluggin along. youll be where you want to be in life, cause your not going to give up. goodluck bro,ive been in your boat, and im pullin for ya!!!

TOTALREASON

oh and also, this new girl, (i have the same thing going on right now), and from my exp. this new girl deserves your attention now, cause she returns your calls, and cares about your feelings. people who care, awnser the phone and call you back. i know you miss the old one.of course your gonna hurt like hell. but the new one is the one who is there for YOU now!!!! . and there-for , has earned the right to have your full attention, if not dont string her along, cause if you dump her for your old girl, you leave her feeling like you feel now, missing the person they WERE with not who othey ARE with. give your love to the new one and it will grow to be what your old love was, but even better cause she will love you back. unlike miss heartless aka old girlfriend

TOTALREASON

and that was totalreasons two cents

Andy2982

I agree with you completely. However, sometimes I feel inadequate because the ex just got her own apartment, and i am still living home.

TOTALREASON

hey im living at my gf parents house untill she graduates college for accounting, and we can get a place. so im with you there too. im taking it one day at a time and refuse to give up . i wish i knew you in person, we got a lot in common and i would like to chat bout things. i really can relate to how you feel bro. dont let her get to you. try to ignore her for a while . it will help ease your mind instead of it going 100000 mph like im sure you feel it is sometimes. or at least i did lol hang in there bro

Forgiveme

sometimes the hardest things to do is the best thing to do. Keep on going on with your life, do what makes you happy. If she contacts you then you tell her how you feel, but until then have fun and "love to live and live to love"

talaniman

Sitting on the pity pot, feeling sorry for yourself, is your choice.

Getting off your butt, and actually doing something good for yourself, is an option you have also.

YOUR CHOICE!!!!!

Andy2982

Thank you. Next to losing a loved one (i.e. death) this really is the hardest thing anyone has to go through. Sometimes this is a real kick to your ego and self esteem.

Andy2982

I absolutely agree. However, I cannot afford to move out right now. The cost of rent is astronomical for my salary. What other options do I have?

talaniman

Roommates?

When is your lease up?