Hey,
What should you do when u think u are falling for ur best friend? i have known this friend 2 years ago when we first started uni. We click very well, and used to chat on the phone for hours long. Rumours started going on about us. BUT there was nothing going on between both of us. Just CLOSE FRIEND. I am irritated when people tease us because i never thought that we could become more then just friends.Later, he slowly started liking this other girl and everyone would tease him about it and encouraging him to take a move. The funny thing now is that, some one tease him , i would feel uneasy( well u can put in a way that i think i am jealous) But i try not to show out. Do u think it is because i am starting to fall for my best friend?? or is it just a momentary feeling that will go away because i am just so used to having him as a close friend that i am afraid we will not be as close as ever..???????Please tell me..?? is there anyone out there who is in my dilemma..>?????

Stunning07

this is the best type of realationship.... i thinnk! if you guys even titled your self as gf & bf. you guys will still feel like friends i myself well were struggling now but also am going out w/ my best freind of two years... we've been dating for two years total of four year freind ship... for some reason it has its bad sides... like i never treid being romantic.. becasue i never had to she was my best friend... and i also made some mistakes.. basically in times of being a bf i would be her freind... and forgot that i am her bf.. these are the things i've relised and Im trying to get my best freind back.. for the mistakes i made.. hope it dose't happen to you guys good luck.

Stunning07

and yes you are falling for him no matter what you say.... i dont think you can turn back your feelings also... when your feelings start gettin stronger... just give him some clues... but not as much.. beacause than he or she will know that you like him.. and you should play hard to get... no matter what in this situation.. (I'm only talking from my expireance)

Demma

We were and still are very good friends. Yet is there such thing as a platonic relationship, where girls and guys just remain as close buddies. I knew him a year ago,We click really well, know each other almost inside out.. the way u know ur best friend inside out. i share with him my problems and thoughts all the time.People alwiz think and wonder if we were a couple ... and our answer is alwiz no... Just friends which was true. I used to get annoyed when others say that we're together, as i can never see ourselves dating.. No way..!!! So i thought.... Lately, he has feeling for this other girl ... n he is trying to know her better and is going after her... Yet, he seems really shy around her. Funny thing is that everytime i see them together, i have this weird uneasy feeling.. i do not know if it is jealousy or wat..?? OR could it just be tat i am so used to having a close fren around that suddenly the sense of insecurity that we might not be as close as ever starts bugging me. Is it that i am afraid of losing a friend or is it really that i am falling for my good friend..? ( oh btw, people say that he is really not himself, not natural around that girl... me n him.. the bond is there.. compare to he n the other girl..).. so u guys out there.. have u ever been in my shoes before.. Do tell me.. wat my feelings are as i am not capable of analyzing my feelings rationally... thanks

talaniman

How old are?

Wildcat21

That's what I want to know.

She seems pretty confused - over analyzing the situation.

Both maybe too scared to move forward.

Uneasy feeling....love.

manimuth

I hear the jealousy but I'm not completely sure if its over loosing a best friend or from romantic feelings.
Women, who has a best friend who is a man, love the special attention it gets them...and the jealous looks from other women.

Demma

Too scared to move foward. What should i do? i for one haven't figure out this mix feelings of mine. No.2 , i dun think he has any feeling other then just mere friendship. No.3 , i do not want to make the move... no way man.. n i do not want to lose a friend becoz of a stupid act of impluse... I just want to uneasy feeling to GO AWAY... i really do not want to be hurt emotionally.. as life's good now...

talaniman

Join the party Demma, none of us wants to hurt at all, but life isn't so co-operative sometimes, so all we poor humans can only can do is learn how to handle those feelings. You are so right not to just act on impulse, better to wait and see how you really feel. For now you can only keep it to yourself until you know exactly what that uneasy feeling is about. I suspect a little jealousy with a hint of fear of losing a friend, and more than a little fear of rejection.......................and a lot of love.

TrueFaith

well when you feel uneasy. i do think it could be somthing more than friendship.. i mean iv had a girl that i was friends with.. she went off with another guy and i was like err.. ok whats this.. is odd.. later on we went out for 3 years.. it was awesome!!. i think most of us take things for granted.. and once its gone we are like huh.. i miss that!.. i think you porbable do like him more than a friend.. because if you didnt then well lets face it 1. you wouldnt think about him that much. and 2.. well you wouldnt post it on here.. we have tons of friends on this earth the real special ones! are the one we like a bit more than friends and know that theres somthing behind the friendship!..

Only real sad thing is.. if anything does happen.. even if you guys kiss once! just once!. it all changes!.. you may changed or so may he.. but whatever the case it will never ever be the same again.. so i can understand why your worried.. my advice is to see where this is going. if you still feel like this in a few months.. i think you should talk to him about it.. if he is a good friend as you say he is.. he will understand and who knows might feel the same way.. it does sound like there is somthing more than friendship here..