Falling for my ex.

What a sly person you are

You are with your boyfriend and you sneek off to talk to your X?

God grow some balls will you and have the respect to leave your boyfriend.

You are just keeping him around because there is no one eles.
The second the x says come back you will run right back to him.

I have no pitty for you.

Do what's right leave your boyfriend
Then after that. Do whatever you want

Seems like that's your way.

What caused you and your ex to break up?

If you are obsessed with wanting to be with your ex it is not fair to your boyfriend. If you are not happy with your boyfriend living a lie (even a lie to yourself) is not a healthy relationship. You can't stay with someone for the wrong reasons like because he loves you, you don't want to hurt him and your parents adore him.

I don't know if part of the problem is that you are comparing what you had with the ex to your boyfriend but
If you are that sure that you don't want to be with him even if you do not get back with your ex then that is serious...need to break up.
I asked what caused you to break up with your ex because often as time goes by we romanticize the good times and block the bad things that caused the break out of our memories.

Since your still got an attachment with the ex, that you keep cultivating, then your relationship with your b/f is poisoned.

Either break up with him, and take your chances, or leave the ex alone.

Do you think its fair to lead the boyfriend on as you are now? You are clearly crossing the boundaries of good behavior, and selfishly holding the b/f hostage, just in case the ex wants you back. That's not good.

Hmm I wasn't expecting such harsh answers. I am not here for pity. I am here for advice. I don't think I have done anything sly. And I don't think I am "obsessing". This is a new feeling that literally just struck me this morning, and I am not even sure if this is how I feel or not. We are friends, all of us, so there really are no secrets. Boyfriend knows that I talk to my ex, basically.

I may be romanticizing things though. We broke up because we just wernt working out. Fighting too much and what not, and just wanting to go our separate ways for a while.

I am not with my boyfriend just for those reasons. I like him a lot. We have a lot in common and have had many good times. It is not love, I know that for sure. But it is special.

I think I may just be suckering into feelings that arnt really there. My boyfriend works grave yard and lives a couple hours away. I want to keep my ex as a friend, that is a sure fact. Something must be in the way of my boyfriend and I, and maybe I just need to fix that to restore the feelings that I used to have for him.

I wasn't trying at all to be harsh, just give you some perspectives to look at.

Your answers were not harsh. They were reality. You are emotionally cheating on your boyfriend, because he does not fill that emotional void that you crave, so you get that from someone else. Your boyfriend deserves the chance and the truth in this matter. You also owe it to him to quit talking to your ex and if you can't you need to let your boyfriend go and be honest as to why you are, because he is the innocent victim who didn't ask for this and is in a terrible spot since he has devoted his time and energy to you but it is not equal in return.

Is there no love what so ever? With current boyfriend that is....

Special?

F#$$ me sweet heart.. Do yourself and him a favor and leave him.

First of all. Talking to your X behind your boyfriends back.. Is.. SLY.. So don't try and fool yourself

I am not being harsh.. You are the one that is being reall harsh here.
You are cheating on your boyfriend. By talking to your X
You are showing him no respect

So in turn you get what you give.
And for you to think that I am going to sit here and say. Oh poor love don't worrie keep on talking to your X yeah. And then go home and get yeah boyfriend to rub yeah feet.
Because the boyfriend may not give you them feelings but at least he is good for something right?

Pffff.

Honestly. Leave him. You will cheat on him. It is just a matter of time..

Sorry, your answers were not harsh. The reality of the situation is, you are talking to your ex behind your boyfriend's back. If you continue to have feelings for your ex and be with your current boyfriend right now. That's a form of cheating imo.